[Keyslost]

I don't think I'm realizing until just now how much my mom not giving me space is not healthy. My whole life she just walks in to my room and will attempt to snoop at whatever it is I'm doing especially stuff like this where it's private. I have to keep telling her that it's my personal thoughts. She has also gone through my meds and asked why I need them and that I shouldn't be taking them. It's very frustrating now that I think about it. Now when I'm in the room she will respect me but idk what she does when I'm away. I know she went into my sis diary which created a bunch of problems between them (biggest being trust). The worst part is she takes it personally and starts drinking when I don't tell her every detail of every day of my life. I know she tries to help but my patience gets thinner every day. At least it gives me motivation to work and study, right? Anyways just needed to get that out. Thx everyone who reads this!

[sideblinded]

Hi Keyslost

You are not responsible for your mother's actions or drinking. I am glad that you are becoming aware of certain things as that means you are starting to be on a road to your own recovery. There are so many things that we are exposed to when our parent or parents drink and we are not even aware that it was so wrong or unhealthy. Keep up the good work at being self aware and I hope you do well in your studies.

[tin58]

Same here keyslost. My mother has this idea that I am just her personal extention. She has never respected my dignity, individuality, my feelings, etc. I was never allowed to have preferances, likes or dislikes. For Me Its More Like A psychological invasion of space and less physical.

She also expects I tell her every little detail of my life, my aunt does too. Its almost like they dont realize we are different people. Were individuals and its ok we do our own thing. Its ok we have our own likes or dislikes.

When I was a child she would throw our stuff away and lie about it. Like favorite shirts or pants. If she did not like it they would mysteriously disappear....

[Keyslost]

Dang, my mom threw stuff my grandma gave me apparently. I was too young to know at the time but my dad was not happy when he found out. It was Christmas or bday can't remember which. I got to find out years later when he explained to me what happened to some of my gifts.