[wmpd]

Ok, my boyfriend is anorexic, we've been friends for 7 years and I know him pretty well.
It started a few years ago after the break up of him and his first girlfriend, he was slightly overweight, and very unhappy with himself. He began eating a lot less, throwing up after each meal, and then exercising for about 5 hours each day.
He cis seriously underweight. For a time, he was at a healthy weight, and was happy in how his body looked at that time, but continued what he was doing and became a lot lighter.
He says he's terrified of gaining any weight, he says he's comfortable with the risks he's taking from being so underweight but that it's better than going back to being unhappy.
I do understand that feeling, I had an eating disorder for years until I was in hospital repeatedly with the health problems that came with it, so I ended up finding it in myself to not think I was going to be "fat" again if I gained a little weight, but it is something I had to come to on my own..
His family and I are really concerned about him, and everything I've tried to do hasn't made much difference. I was wondering if any of you had any tips for me to help support him, and hopefully make him want to overcome it?

[smmath]

Is he in therapy? I would suggest that to him. Does he know about your past affliction with the disorder? Maybe knowing you understand it would help him some.

[wmpd]

He isn't in therapy, I've suggested it a few times but he doesn't take much notice. & I have had discussions with him about my past, and he would be pleased I'm healthier now but wouldn't wish the same for himself. His constant reply when anything on that topic is mentioned is along the lines of "I'm terrified of gaining weight & I will do anything in my power to stop that from happening."

[Gr3tta]

wmpd- unfortunately it sounds like he is very focused. I think the best thing you can do is support all the wonderful things about him that have nothing to do with size or body. When he does something sweet for your, remind him of his kindness, when he comes up with a smart solution, praise his cleverness, when he makes you laugh, dont forget to let him know how great it feels to laugh and be happy with him.
...and thats all you can do. You cant make him want to get better. (I know you know that) Remember to keep yourself well, too.
Please take care.