[objtrbit]

or lack of...we shall see I guess

Question for the Antisocials/psychopaths...what was the longest relationship you've ever had? (Relationship defined as whatever human to human interaction you want to consider a relationship).

Also, how would you describe your dealings with people on a day-to-day basis, and how often would you say you deal with people at all?

Thanks,
-obj

[taytaybatt]

I had a relationship that lasted about 6 months. I saw him about twice a month. He'd take me to a nice restaurant and then whichever movie I wanted to see and lavish me with gifts. I honestly wished I could've actually managed to be with him because I got some nice things (and didn't have to spend any of my own money). The major catch was that I could feel my brain cells dying from being near him. You can only stand idiots for so long.

Ah! Please accept my apologies for not seeing this sooner.

I've been with my wife for about 4 and half years. About that... Let's go with that... We've been married for almost 2 years.

My dealings with people depend on the person and my mood. With my wife, friends, family members, and strangers on the internet, I'm more free to be myself. Not entirely of course. They can only take small doses of me at a time or they'll die somehow. With business assets, marks, and other such people who could prove useful to me in some manner, I have this pleasant and ever changing façade which I tailor to fit their desires and expectations ... or whatever I need at the time. For less desirable individuals, I manage to maintain a degree of politeness... but that's more of an automatic response than a conscious effort to deceive. When I'm in a foul mood, my mask is more difficult to maintain for extended periods of time, so I try not to deal with people unless it's absolutely necessary.

[Polyakov]

Originally Posted by objtrbit

Q. What was the longest relationship you've ever had? (Relationship defined as whatever human to human interaction you want to consider a relationship).

A. Seven years and counting.

Originally Posted by objtrbit

Q. How would you describe your dealings with people on a day-to-day basis?

A. Civil, yet concise; more verbose when initiating contact. Typically I let other people do the talking as it provides an effective way of appraising them. I can typically tell whether or not you are worth conversing with based on the things you say and the manner in which you speak them (body language is almost key). Obviously, this makes communication through a medium such as the internet tedious, at best. I also have a propensity towards directness in my dealings which removes the faint of heart from my company rather expediently. Alternatively, I can be rather charming when the situation requires it.

Originally Posted by objtrbit

Q. How often would you say you deal with people at all?

A. Aside from my fiance, I only speak with people that approach me. I do not typically acknowledge the presence of others unless their actions warrant it.

[objtrbit]

Originally Posted by Michael the Great

Ah! Please accept my apologies for not seeing this sooner.

Same here for replying-I am reduced to library computers lol.

I've been with my wife for about 4 and half years. About that... Let's go with that... We've been married for almost 2 years.

That is impressive considering what I thought might be the case with such a disorder; I take this as good news?

My dealings with people depend on the person and my mood. With my wife, friends, family members, and strangers on the internet, I'm more free to be myself.

The ability to be one's self is a huge factor, it's awesome that you feel you have accumulated some people in your life that you can be yourself around. This a broad question lol, but how would you describe yourself? Are the reasons you can't be yourself based on legal consequences? lol, or are there other factors as well?

Not entirely of course. They can only take small doses of me at a time or they'll die somehow.

lmfao! What is that like for you, that they can only take so much you?

With business assets, marks, and other such people who could prove useful to me in some manner, I have this pleasant and ever changing façade which I tailor to fit their desires and expectations ... or whatever I need at the time.

Does this typically serve you well, or has it ever backfired?

For less desirable individuals, I manage to maintain a degree of politeness... but that's more of an automatic response than a conscious effort to deceive.

That's a lot of insight;

When I'm in a foul mood, my mask is more difficult to maintain for extended periods of time, so I try not to deal with people unless it's absolutely necessary.

What does not wearing the mask look like for you? not literally haha

If you could go back in time or whatever-would you chose not to have this disorder, or are you happy with the way you are?
I think what I'm curious about too if you feel there is a "worst" part of having this disorder, best part-others might say you are not 'functioning' to the fulliest degree-what do you think about it though?

Thanks yo, take care,
-obj

[objtrbit]

Originally Posted by taytaybatt

I had a relationship that lasted about 6 months. I saw him about twice a month. He'd take me to a nice restaurant and then whichever movie I wanted to see and lavish me with gifts. I honestly wished I could've actually managed to be with him because I got some nice things (and didn't have to spend any of my own money). The major catch was that I could feel my brain cells dying from being near him. You can only stand idiots for so long.

Haha, "would you rather"...lol; would you go into what adjacted you? Free stuff is hard to beat (not that I condone or don't condone anything here lol) so what was the deal breaker here-and do most of your relationships (with everyone) have similar patterns?

Thanks!
-obj

[objtrbit]

Originally Posted by Polyakov

A. Seven years and counting.

That is also impressive; For some reason I was thinking that this might be lower-but cool; would you say the relationship is symbiotice between you two? I'm curious about what your arguements look like too;

A. Civil, yet concise; more verbose when initiating contact. Typically I let other people do the talking as it provides an effective way of appraising them. I can typically tell whether or not you are worth conversing with based on the things you say and the manner in which you speak them (body language is almost key). Obviously, this makes communication through a medium such as the internet tedious, at best.

Thanks for putting up with this then! So, theoretically, would seeing a therapist and having to do all the talking bother you? (This is assuming you go to one that facilitates that) and also not assuming you need therapy...just couldn't think of any other way you would be likely to talk more.

What happens (mentally) when you talk? (does that make sense as a question, nah' mean? lol)

I also have a propensity towards directness in my dealings which removes the faint of heart from my company rather expediently.

Lol, do you feel this is on purpose, or do you have just do it, out of your control?

Alternatively, I can be rather charming when the situation requires it.

Does having to this ever cause you irritation?

A. Aside from my fiance, I only speak with people that approach me. I do not typically acknowledge the presence of others unless their actions warrant it.

So you are 'isolated' other than your finace? No interest in friends or any other type of relationship?

I would imagine antisocials live under a large degree of oppression-am I wrong or do you find a way to avoid it? (Opression due to critisism as a result of your actions, or even thoughts too).

Thanks for replying polyakov!

Take care,
-obj

Originally Posted by objtrbit

That is impressive considering what I thought might be the case with such a disorder; I take this as good news?

It's very good news, considering most people with such a disorder can only maintain a long term relationship through violence or threat of violence.

Originally Posted by obj

The ability to be one's self is a huge factor, it's awesome that you feel you have accumulated some people in your life that you can be yourself around. This a broad question lol, but how would you describe yourself? Are the reasons you can't be yourself based on legal consequences? lol, or are there other factors as well?

That's a good question. It's hard for me to determine which aspects of my personality are my true self, a result of my "disorder", or a part of the façade. Then again, is this "disorder" not a part of me (or even most of me)? And does the façade I craft not come from my own thoughts, actions, and so forth?

Anyhow... I'd describe myself as a charming liar. A sadist. Oft pompous, although I don't truly think as highly of myself as I pretend to. Rash in some instances, calculating in others. Egotistical. An adrenaline junkie. I'm fascinated by philosophy. And puzzles and problem solving. I'm an avid reader. I do lack a conscience, but, despite that, I have my own "moral codes". No one lives up to my expectations, including myself. I'm never truly satisfied. I'm always alone, but never really lonely. I can get obsessive about random things, such as a particular work project, a game, a riddle, an object, a mystery, an idea, a plan, etc. And once I solve or obtain whatever it is over which I'm obsessing, I spend a period of self-destructing or doing nothing at all before spotting a new something over which to obsess. Something similar to bipolar, but not as extreme.

I can't be myself for factors that, if gone unchecked, would inevitably lead to legal consequences. And there are more minor factors, such as callousness, that would mark me as a social pariah. People don't really appreciate it when you joke about rigor mortis at a funeral, it turns out... Usually I can be callous to a degree and people don't mind. But in highly emotional situations, such as a funeral, my natural shallow affect tends to draw a lot of unwanted attention, which forces me to put on an Oscar worthy act or face the wrath of my neighbours.

Originally Posted by obj

lmfao! What is that like for you, that they can only take so much you?

It's unpleasant. Partly because I can never truly let my guard down and let people in. Mostly because of the knowledge that no one would want to be let in, or, if they did, they'd regret it.

Originally Posted by obj

Does this typically serve you well, or has it ever backfired?

It typically serves me well, but it has backfired. Like anything, failures can be expected from time to time, especially when one's still new to the game.

Originally Posted by obj

What does not wearing the mask look like for you? not literally haha

I barely recognize it. It's hard for me to accurately assess my own natural personality, because, in the presence of people, I maintain a façade, and in the absence of people, I don't get any feedback. My mask has slipped in front of people on a few isolated incidences. But they don't often want to have anything to do with me after that, let alone give me an honest critique of my personality. However, the terms "evil" and "monster" were thrown around in such cases. Their words, not mine.

Originally Posted by obj

If you could go back in time or whatever-would you chose not to have this disorder, or are you happy with the way you are?
I think what I'm curious about too if you feel there is a "worst" part of having this disorder, best part-others might say you are not 'functioning' to the fulliest degree-what do you think about it though?

I wouldn't. As I may have mentioned in previous posts, my callousness was probably the only thing that saved my mind from being completely broken during my childhood. And I think I've managed to make my unique personality work for me.

Originally Posted by obj

Thanks yo, take care,

You're welcome.

[chelseamonster11]

3 months was my longest relationship. Things will be fine in the beginning, but the more someone gets to know me, the more they realize that there's something off about me. I've only ever cared for 2 people I've been in relationships with, the rest of the time I would date people for entertainment and end up using them to some degree.
I get lost between who I am and who I pretend to be sometimes. Dealing with people is confusing for me, I either avoid them or make them think I have a different personality than I really do. I'm not sure why, it feels like I do it because I don't think they'd be able to deal with me other wise. Maybe I just like messing with people's minds. Usually I act like the person I think others will want me to be, or be able to deal with. I think I do it because I know it'll be easier for me that way and I'll be able to get what I want out of whatever situation I'm in. But its hard to say, its an automatic response I have that I don't fully understand.