[Darbypar]

I have severe anxiety and my husband has always thought it was in my head until i was diagnosed with DID a few days ago. We moved for him to open two stores for the company he works for and that makes me the host for all gatherings.

Having 4 children, socializing with their teachers, friends and activities is hard enough, but I also have to be the happy wife of the boss. We have many events in our home and I sometimes take double doses of my meds and drink a few beers to cope before everyone arrives.

Very often, I use the kids as an excuse or say I'm tired to sneak away to bed. I'm usually asked to join in charades, karaoke and other games, which I love, but not in front of people.

My husband has agreed to have all gatherings in restaurants or someone else's house, but it makes me feel so guilty. It's my job as his wife to support him and I feel as though I am failing.

I believe you may be looking for the "Avoidant Personality Disorder" forum.

[KarmaharleyJD33]

I think she is in the right place and just needs a compassionate supportive friend. I have those anxiety issues as well. They are not fun for anyone. One day at a time and try to bond with a helper alter. One who is spiritual or positive in nature. That will be your key to cooperation. Lots of love and light to you and yours. Jess and family here.

Originally Posted by KarmaharleyJD33

I think she is in the right place and just needs a compassionate supportive friend.

Well, if by "right place", you mean psychcentral in general, then perhaps. But the antisocial personality forum is intended for those who have antisocial personality...

[AlphaMikeFoxtrot]

Originally Posted by Michael D.

Well, if by "right place", you mean psychcentral in general, then perhaps. But the antisocial personality forum is intended for those who have antisocial personality...

At least somebody's getting some use out of it.

Originally Posted by AlphaMikeFoxtrot

At least somebody's getting some use out of it.

True.

I fear the internets is losing its appeal...

[AlphaMikeFoxtrot]

Originally Posted by Michael D.

True.

I fear the internets is losing its appeal...

I would assume it becomes a cyclical thing, when time allows.

[KarmaharleyJD33]

Use all of my other advice then just cross out the alter part of it. Connect with your spiritual center in order for it to make you calm. This is social anxiety. I had that and still do to a point. light to you. Just trying to help... Jess Out

[Girl_Interrupted]

You probably won't find any support here, as not to be a d*ck or anything, but most of the people with ASPD here, won't give a s**t about you. :P

If you go here, you might find some support. - http://forums.psychcentral.com/forumdisplay.php?f=21 you have to scroll down to find all the posts, and not just the subsections.
It's not visited very often by people though, so just be patient for an answer, but the only answer really, is to get some support in reality.

Get friends and family to take the kids off your hands for a while, even if it's just for the day so you don't have to worry about them, or a weekend. See a therapist or counsellor and just rant to them about how you're finding things at home and in your relationship difficult.

I don't think you're in the right place though. Does your husband have Anti-social Personality Disorder?
From the sounds of it, your concern is more how YOU are coping with everything, and support for you, rather than support for you to cope with your husband and approach him.

Girl Interupted,

Doesn't this entire thread make you want to throw a three minute tantrum?!!!!

Borderline, too,

-Fleeing Bellocq