[Mattmx]

I find myself in a lot of situations this past month or so with people either talking about ASPD and not understanding it at all, or lots of people saying they have it, or they're sociopaths when they're clearly normal people. I get so frustrated when people say this because it just bewilders me how they can be so naive. These people will say stuff like "well I did this really messed up thing the other day, I guess I'm a sociopath," and just throw the term around lightly. Does anyone else get as frustrated as me when stuff like this happens?

[ocdwifeofsociopath]

it's silly, but I find it more annoying when people don't know what ASPD means, but talk as if they do because they assume it is what it sounds like. Which is not their fault. It was a stupid name for the disorder to begin with in my opinion....

[Mattmx]

Originally Posted by ocdwifeofsociopath

it's silly, but I find it more annoying when people don't know what ASPD means, but talk as if they do because they assume it is what it sounds like. Which is not their fault. It was a stupid name for the disorder to begin with in my opinion....

Yeah, its definitely a misleading name but if people even took a second to look it up they'd realize it's not what they're talking about

Holy ****, THANK YOU. Maybe it's a stupid thing to get frustrated over but I condemn everyone equally for their ignorance. People don't understand that normal, everyday people can do insensitive & impulsive things. And they don't realize that people with ASPD don't spend every second of every day ****ing with others. We have just as much mundane events to muck through as diplomatically as possible! Lmao

[A Red Panda]

I think it's just plain rude when someone comes into any of the forums spouting off misconceptions about a disorder. Or when they come in and start insulting people with the disorder by complaining about someone they know with X-disorder and how their life has been ruined. The subforums are to support people with X-diagnosis, not to insult them.

It definitely happens a lot in this part of the forum, but it's also pretty frequent in the NPD, Borderline and bipolar forums. It really isn't that difficult to do a wee bit of reading on a disorder!

[Mattmx]

Thanks for the replies both of you. But yeah I hate when people assume that sociopath=bad person, and that we have some type of compass guiding us and pulling us towards bad things. It's so misunderstood.
Yeah Panda, I notice that a ton and it can be quite annoying. When someone comes out of the blue and asks for advice on how to deal with the terrible things their partner does and then says they believe they have x-disorder based off of those terrible actions. It makes it hard to be a bigger person and not make rude comments. If the community guidelines here weren't so harsh on people standing up for themselves instead of running from their problems I think I'd have a lot more to say

[A Red Panda]

Sammmme here and I'm not typically a "confronational" sort of person...

But it annoys the hell out of me to see people go "My partner's abusive towards me! They must be X!"

I usually, at least with bipolar, go "That's not a symptom of bipolar." I don't usually do that with other diagnoses as I'm not as familiar with them. Sometimes someone abusive is just abusive. Sometimes someone with X diagnosis is totally harmless even if their diagnosis has a bad rap. It takes a loooot of effort not to say more. The times I have, the person came back at me about how horrible I was basically! I just rolled my eyes.

[Mattmx]

Yeah that's what happens with me...or they report what I say and I get a message from a moderator/administrator telling me the proper thing to do is just ignore them or something completely ridiculous. It's also quite annoying how these people choose to post here about it, asking us for help on how to "understand" so they can save their relationship. If the person is that horrible they should have the common sense to realize it's not a good relationship.

[A Red Panda]

Yeah... I've only had the "you should just ignore it" once. I don't really agree with that - if someone's going to post something so blatantly hurtful towards a group of people, that is what should be addressed... and not someone defending people who have that diagnosis. The partners and caregivers section is there for a reason!

[Mattmx]

Originally Posted by A Red Panda

Yeah... I've only had the "you should just ignore it" once. I don't really agree with that - if someone's going to post something so blatantly hurtful towards a group of people, that is what should be addressed... and not someone defending people who have that diagnosis. The partners and caregivers section is there for a reason!

Agreed, and it isn't a very helpful thing to teach people to ignore their problems or become rats. Half the people that are here are here because they don't deal with their own problems enough as it is, why reinforce it

[ocdwifeofsociopath]

I find it slightly amusing when someone comes on to this forum specifically expecting sympathy. Not only does this group have that stigma of being uncaring, but the "monster" they come complaining about, in their mind, is the same kind of person they expect care and love from on here. How does that make any sense?

[Mattmx]

Originally Posted by ocdwifeofsociopath

I find it slightly amusing when someone comes on to this forum specifically expecting sympathy. Not only does this group have that stigma of being uncaring, but the "monster" they come complaining about, in their mind, is the same kind of person they expect care and love from on here. How does that make any sense?

I have no idea...especially after they usually generalize and bad mouth all of us

[A Red Panda]

Can I just walk in here right now and smack my own forehead for engaging in conversations where I try to speak up???

(This is what I feel like doing right now).

[Mattmx]

Originally Posted by A Red Panda

Can I just walk in here right now and smack my own forehead for engaging in conversations where I try to speak up???

(This is what I feel like doing right now).

Why's that?

[sabby]

Hi All,

I so get why you feel annoyed at members who "think" they may be ASPD or they are looking for information from someone who is dx'ed ASPD to help them with their relationship. I DO get it!

That being said, we (the team) cannot possibly see every single post/thread that is made every day, there is just too many of them. What would be really helpful, since you are members of a community, would you be willing to report a post or thread that you feel doesn't belong here so that we can check it out and move it if it needs moving? That would be a great help to the team and it would also help keep your forum inline with what it's for, folks who are dx'ed ASPD to discuss their issues and get support from others.

Remember, we don't have crystal balls to tell us when a member is going to post here that should be posting in another forum. It has to happen first before anything can be done to correct the placement of the post/thread.

With Care,
sabby

's to ya'll

[A Red Panda]

Originally Posted by Mattmx

Why's that?

Just the same... misconceptions over definitions of a disorder! Felt like I was banging my head against a wall. haha. Fortunately I have a hard head!

Hahahah Sabby, just remove a little over half the threads! While you're at it, get Doc John to start a Sociopath Rental Service so we can have some company. It's lonely

[11losin_it_all11]

Referring to the beginning of this forum, it personally annoys me when people call themselves "antisocial" when they rather be alone than go out with people. I do not suffer from ASPD but have read up on it out of curiosity and found that it's just such an inaccurate expression. I'm often called "antisocial" because I'm a loner, I enjoy my own company and I don't seek human interaction. I always correct people when they call me "antisocial" not because I think it's an insult but it bothers me that it's used in such a loose manner. They practically use it as an adjective.

A non with such consideration? Beautiful.

[Mattmx]

Originally Posted by 11losin_it_all11

Referring to the beginning of this forum, it personally annoys me when people call themselves "antisocial" when they rather be alone than go out with people. I do not suffer from ASPD but have read up on it out of curiosity and found that it's just such an inaccurate expression. I'm often called "antisocial" because I'm a loner, I enjoy my own company and I don't seek human interaction. I always correct people when they call me "antisocial" not because I think it's an insult but it bothers me that it's used in such a loose manner. They practically use it as an adjective.

Antisocial personality disorder is not avoidance PD, they are completely different...

[sabby]

I think it's important to consider that not everyone is up on the DSM quantifications or descriptions and names of illnesses/disorders. Many do not realize that Antisocial Personality Disorder is something different from just not being social with others in their lives. It's a misconception but I don't see where folks are being ignorant with intent to be, it's just because they are unaware and are on a journey of learning about these things.

At this time this thread will be closed as it's pretty much run it's course.