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Hi,
Simple question, can someone with ASPD love? I was told by my pdoc that I have antisocial traits but have never been fully diagnosed with it. I'm wondering is this because I'm in a steady relationship and have a lot of love for my family. |
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Simple answer - absolutely!
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#3
This is where I think a label can be limiting. The stereotype is that people with ASPD cannot love and for many that is likely true, but I know two people with ASPD that most definitely are capable of love and are in love.
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That is funny because a family friend described my ex that way, being unable to love.
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I think ASPDs can love.
I don't believe narcissists/psychopaths can love because they lack empathy. I don't think it's possible to love without empathy. Sent from my SM-N910F using Tapatalk |
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Thanks for the insight people!
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in my experience you can love. i scored a 94 and i can love. i made a commitment to myself that i would never act hostile towards my family and i believe it is starting to work. i love the phrase fake it until you make it. it works all the time. i can simply make myself better by burying my weaknesses until they completely fade away. praise "I WILL" until you grow free of fear and you will be unstoppable. i dont even care if it comes to my game over. if JFK can handle it and persevere, so can i. u can too.
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I don't know what that is, I don't feel that. Personally, I believe love is non-existent and even when defined by psychology it's never really been attained. To me, it's an intangible concept that's utterly useless and I only use it to entice(mostly females) to be more supportive of me and do things for me. I can care about and like people to a certain degree, just not love,,I don't even love or care about my own family.
But everyone has their own experiences and feelings that are subjective, so it's possible for others to. |
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I see love as pointless, useless, and nonexistent.
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I'm in a relationship with someone with aspd and he takes care of me and puts his needs before his own. He explained his feelings towards me as I am a prized possession. He owns me. I'm ok with this and I love him and worship him as my god
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That other site gave a lot of feedback. I don't know the answer, myself.
That said, it sounds like you two definitely bonded, that's great! Meeting each other's needs is so important and he's putting your needs before his, too! Congratulations! |
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I'm one and to say that I am able to love is a strong wronged answer but sure I am able to get somehow obsessed with the people that I have interest to "own". This is somehow sometimes mimicking a sort of superficial love. Beside since I am a trained to live in society and mimic emotions I am very good at adressing my sexual lust into something that most people would see it as love. The problem is when people like me get bored and loses interest in the "aimed person"
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Ha Ha I was going to reply but Void of Oblivion said it all for me, absolutely spot on. The thing I care most about is my cat, but if I had to move house or couldn't keep him for some reason I would have no hesitation in blowing his head off and I know from experience that I would have no remorse or guilt. As for humans I don't think I could ever care more for a human than my cat. So my answer is if you have the full suite of ASPD symptoms you would be incapable of love. I also never feel lonely so It is something I simply don't understand.
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Conditional love.
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I think love is too strong of a word. Care? Yes. Love? Personally i have not experienced that.
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#18
Care isn’t the same as love? Then I’m not sure either.
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I only care about the people and animals and plants I love. I’m not all that good at it but I try.
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#20
Maybe trying to be social with other anti-socials is “barking up the wrong tree”.🤣
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