[Ljj7000]

This is a topic that's been on my mind lately. But I really hate it when I want to go home or just chill, but someone tries to start a conversation with me. At that point, I'll try to tolerate the conversation. I'll try not to be rude to the other person. Does anyone else have a similar problem?

[Skeezyks]

There's an old saying to which I subscribe: "Speak only if you can improve upon the silence."

[theKow]

Very much. Silence has a lot going for it.

[Loose Screw x 2]

I share in this annoyance when I feel that I don't have time for it but, I will endure it up to a point especially if the person pester - I mean talking to me has something on their mind and needs to be heard then, yeah, I will listen, say something supportive and then, be on my way.

[mote.of.soul]

For me it depends what the subject matter is. If it's things I find interesting then I can sustain the small talk conversation but if it's things I find utterly boring and inconsequential, pointless, then yes, I find it draining and want the person to go away etc. Especially if they start talking about people negatively, gossiping. But I can do small talk for a short time.

[N0b0dy]

Dude oh my god yes! I loathe small talk usually, from strangers the most. I TRY not to be rude, but some days I just don't care, and will ignore people. There have been times I even said "I don't care". Especially when people go on and on and on, like I have the freaking attention span to listen when I don't even care?!?!? Mostly when people are talking about something I consider boring. It's a touchy subject to be honest.

Originally Posted by Ljj7000

This is a topic that's been on my mind lately. But I really hate it when I want to go home or just chill, but someone tries to start a conversation with me. At that point, I'll try to tolerate the conversation. I'll try not to be rude to the other person. Does anyone else have a similar problem?

I hate small talk, and I also hate when people drag a topic on and on and on in an attempt to keep you their with them.

like they will say something about themselves or their life, then after that break it down and go on about it, like it's the most important thing.

it doesn't have to be about themselves.. it can be about history, or just anything

[Julia150]

Originally Posted by Ljj7000

This is a topic that's been on my mind lately. But I really hate it when I want to go home or just chill, but someone tries to start a conversation with me. At that point, I'll try to tolerate the conversation. I'll try not to be rude to the other person. Does anyone else have a similar problem?

Well, I too hate small talk!
I mean, you have something important to tell me? I am listening.
You don't have something important to tell me? Leave me alone. I don't care about "I like the weather today".
It makes no sense at all.

[Steiger]

Most people only care for small talk, the general pleasantries of touching base and relating with each other on common ground. There is no real substance to it outside of relating socially. I would argue that the contents of these threads acts as a similar social lube. Y'all just like relating on how much you dislike other people. It's equally as useless and obnoxious. A bunch of whining and crying is what it all sounds like instead. Go do something useful with your time, productive you know? Otherwise quit sucking up valuable oxygen and do everyone else in the civilized world a favor.

[le toad]

I learned my lesson with small talk many years ago..

I was sitting at a table when a young female approached. She kind of had this "look" in her eye? But i couldn't figure it out.

Well.. She introduced herself and said for some strange reason "I hate sitting by myself", and just started chattering away about any and everything..At first, i was irritated, but then relaxed, and we had a rapport.

A group of people came over, and you know what happened? She quickly turned away from me, and started chattering away with her group as if i wasn't even there..

An older lady of the group tried to be polite, and asked: "Hey, aren't you going to introduce us to your new friend."

That chick didn't even turn around to look at me, she just said: "Nah, she was just someone to talk to until you guys showed up..

There are some people that use small talk as a connection? And there are others that just have nothing else better to do, so they talk out of plain old boredom..

Needless to say, i felt pretty "used and thrown away" after that happened..

[GreenAlien2]

I hate small talk, because, I dont know how to small talk...?
I meet someone and inside I am having a complete conversation telling myself, now you say this, now you have to say that, in order to look normal on the outside..Most of new encounters are very awkward, because I literally have no idea what so say/how to act.

[Steiger]

GreenAlien2 I can definitely relate although it seems I might have an easier go at it. I normally relate to people based on some piece of observational evidence and then let them talk about themselves and ask questions.

[Borderline69]

Yes yes and yes. Hate it so much I often skip reading many of the post here bc let's face it, many are made up of small talk 😴😴😴. Its been said small talk is essential to day to day communication however that is untrue, every conversation has an opening for some depth however 9/10 people have a shallow sense of mind.

[Steiger]

Originally Posted by Borderline69

Yes yes and yes. Hate it so much I often skip reading many of the post here bc let's face it, many are made up of small talk 😴😴😴. Its been said small talk is essential to day to day communication however that is untrue, every conversation has an opening for some depth however 9/10 people have a shallow sense of mind.

I'll take that opening, stretch it out wide, peer inside, and see how deep the rabbit hole slides. You didn't leave me too much to work with there, other than Borderline69, which smells like meat in the jungle. In any regard, what do like to talk about instead? What sparks your depth in discourse?

[LittleEarthquakes]

No, I find it to be easy.