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Old 05-08-2020, 12:46 AM   #1
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This person is no longer my partner and yet I feel sort of empty without him. The thing is I don't recieve love from him in the way the world wants you to believe love exists. Instead it is conditional love. Quid pro quo.

I think that is a different sort of love. Less emotional reaction and more care and respecting each other without the butterflies.

Can a relationship with a psychopath work if you are aware and understanding? I understand trauma bond and maybe that is me. I still adore him. We all have flaws.
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I don't know anything about this. But I noticed you had yet to receive replies to this post. So I thought I would at least let you know I read your post & I wish you the best. Here's a link to an article on the subject of ASPD that may be of interest:

Understanding Antisocial Personality Disorder | The Exhausted Woman

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This person is no longer my partner and yet I feel sort of empty without him. The thing is I don't recieve love from him in the way the world wants you to believe love exists. Instead it is conditional love. Quid pro quo.

I think that is a different sort of love. Less emotional reaction and more care and respecting each other without the butterflies.

Can a relationship with a psychopath work if you are aware and understanding? I understand trauma bond and maybe that is me. I still adore him. We all have flaws.

Flaws of course being highlighted imperfections as defined in contrast to outside ideals. Treat the mythical creature with the awe and wonder it deserves, or donít believe in its magic altogether and be rendered blind. The exacting scalpel of dissection does not apply to such a mysterious mist. Mutual feelings yield amplified results.
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Flaws of course being highlighted imperfections as defined in contrast to outside ideals. Treat the mythical creature with the awe and wonder it deserves, or donít believe in its magic altogether and be rendered blind. The exacting scalpel of dissection does not apply to such a mysterious mist. Mutual feelings yield amplified results.
Well stated. Thank you.
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This person is no longer my partner and yet I feel sort of empty without him. The thing is I don't recieve love from him in the way the world wants you to believe love exists. Instead it is conditional love. Quid pro quo.

I think that is a different sort of love. Less emotional reaction and more care and respecting each other without the butterflies.

Can a relationship with a psychopath work if you are aware and understanding? I understand trauma bond and maybe that is me. I still adore him. We all have flaws.
I was in love with someone who told me he was a sociopath once. Who knows if he ever truly was. He didn't love me back though and it hurt terribly, it took me years of crying and torment to get over it. He had a certain charm, I miss him, but I didn't want to see him and he dumped me, so it's done.
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This person is no longer my partner and yet I feel sort of empty without him. The thing is I don't recieve love from him in the way the world wants you to believe love exists. Instead it is conditional love. Quid pro quo.

I think that is a different sort of love. Less emotional reaction and more care and respecting each other without the butterflies.

Can a relationship with a psychopath work if you are aware and understanding? I understand trauma bond and maybe that is me. I still adore him. We all have flaws.
Not sure if it can work. Maybe something to ask a therapist. Might be something if he is aware and seriously tries not to cause you pain. But it's a stretch to say the least.. good luck
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