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Aug 15, 2010, 12:31 AM
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So I grew up an only child. My parents were pretty inattentive. From about the age of 10 I became mostly autonomous. By the age of 17, I was all but financially autonomous. My parents never really supported me looking back. I was the one who would wake my mom up so she could take me to school. I was always late because her sleep was more important than getting me to school on time. Sometimes I felt like I was an accident. Like my parents never wanted children. I was a just a nusience. I grew up feeling guilty for my use of resources. I rarely felt loved and supported. I felt I had to hold my parents at gunpoint (figuratively of course) to get them to attend things like my graduations, award events, ect. They were always out of town.. Like my high school senior year homecoming. Gone. Empty house. Silence. I had to take care of myself, and occasionally my parents, and saddle all the emotions caused by the lack of support. I suffered from anxiety and perfectionism as early as kindergarden. As I grew older, the problem got worse. Now, its very likely I suffer from extreme anxiety as well as borderline personality disorder. Does anyone else believe there is a correlation between my diagnosis and my parents rearing style? Anyone know what could help?
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Aug 15, 2010, 01:13 AM
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Hello smackcookies,
I believe that depression of any kind is hereditary and situational at the same time so to answer the question outright would be muddy I do believe however that their parenting style and the attention you received at kindy were enough to cause the OCD and anxiety, and the continual situation would make it worse. I hope you are able to change the way things are for you and that you are able to have normal relationships and friendships in your adult life. I also would like to ask you if you intend to have children yourself? Rhiannon
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Aug 15, 2010, 04:32 PM
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It's possible, for certain. But it's a combination of things I would think, like if an individual is able to cope and how they're able to cope. There are people that would've enjoyed a childhood like that, while others would need to be completely nurtured and led by the hand.
I don't think either extreme is good, but it is what it is. I hope you're able to find the help you need to get above the things that bother you 
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