[HelloWorld18]

So I found out on FaceBook. We've been friends for around 6 months, and he said he rarely adds people on his Facebook. We were coworkers at work. So I understood why, just cause he wants to avoid gossip.

So when him and I became friends, I thought he was nice and cool and whatever. So after a while, we started working out together since I am unguided when it comes to routines (well I was lol).

So there were a few remarks that he had made that kinda got me questioning about him.

One of which is that he said that some people have certain ideas about him. It was a curious remark to make.

My whole life I've been called gay, so I am the last person who wants to label someone esp when its not the truth. Tons of people think I'm gay but I'm not. I want a future with a woman.

So cause of that, I wasn't going to think much further about it as I don't want to ask if he's gay when in fact he isn't. Cause thats hurtful, trust me.

So every now and then he'd mention Facebook and hell add me once he knows I'm a good friend who won't talk gossip. But he never added me until I left my workplace. Now, a few hours ago he adds me.

As I'm curious to see what he had to hide, I notice a lot of posts are with another coworker we worked with. Pictures, tagged comments of articles or pics or whatever. So I figured they were best friends.

I then go to the about page to see what it says, and I notice he's following a ton of guys. I went to their pages, and notice most of them are gay or young and not had good looks (no homo :O ).

Now it's pretty clear that he's gay. I don't know how I feel, like he's nice and respectable and a good coworker and friend, but i'm not completely comfortable that he's gay.

[kaliope]

so how does being gay change who he is and what kind of friend he has been to you? you dont hint that he has ever given you the impression that he has hit on you or wanted more out of your relationship than friendship. are you afraid that having a gay friend will increase the likelihood that others will think you are gay as well? he has trusted you and made himself vulnerable to you by allowing you to know this about him which i think means he considers you a good friend.

[Artchic528]

I agree with Kali. He is your friend. Why would you think any differently of him based on his sexuality? He probably didn't tell you he was gay for this reason. Why would it make any difference who he loves anyways?