what will help/cure you

Do you sort of KNOW what it would take to help or cure you but you don't know how to get there?

I've been just wondering if other people feel this way

I try so hard but I feel hopeless and like there is no solution

I wish I knew what would help, but sadly I'm still looking for something to control my anxiety (and my dysthymia too).

I dont have an answer either.

i have an old rule: follow your nose. it just seems to me that when there is something i need to be doing it presents itself to me. the real trick is in noticing that something is being offered. it requires that we lay down our demands of life and accept what's offered. the smallest things can lead to the biggest steps; allow for the possiblity that the universe is a friendly place, always trying to be helpful, even if that involves pain (which is often a measure of growth).

I am only aware of the gap between.
I often dream of it, with me on one side of a dark deep gap, and some kind of vehicle on the other side, and I can't figure out how to get to it.

Finding inner security.

Believing that things will get better is really important for me. Hope is incredibly powerful and it is a great comfort for me. If I start losing hope, things quickly go from bad to worse.

A long time ago, what worked for me was "action" on my part. Taking the first steps provided the motivation to keep going. Of course everyone's goals are unique to themselves.

feary, do you feel like you know what it would take to help or cure you? Do you want to say here what you think that might be?

No, I just don't know really, so many things I guess

If I could just get up without worry and fatigue and stress and fear and just go about my day and accept things more

and be able to get ready without thinking I will die while showering and in everything I do all day

having a job, friends, being a good mom who is focused

I try so hard but I am failing

I DO so many things even though it terrifies me but I have lost hope because it doesn't produce any results

If I could just stop worrying, stop obsessing about aging and dying

If I could just enjoy

If I could stop the guilt

If I could function and do the stuff I need to

If I had my kids full time

If I had a sense of safety and security

If I had a husband to give me comfort

If I could like myself and my life

If this impending doom would go

If I could just be normal and have normal thoughts

If I could know that I will be around to raise my kids properly

If I could not care about aging and dying

I just feel so horrible

I miss myself and the way my life used to be- sort of effortless before this monster of anxiety terrorized me

I have no hope

and each day it is wearing thinner and thinner

There is no possible way to recover from a fear of aging and dying and being devastated by divorce and custody and having your entire life shattered

I don't understand how this could happen to me when I have two young children to raise

Hi ! I certainly can relate to many of the things you have posted. Been there, done that. Luckily I got into a program with wonderful therapists. I also obsessed over many many things and worried about things I had absolutely no control over. I was given instructions to set a time - one hour a day - same time every day - and call it my WORRY HOUR. I had to sit alone, and do nothing but obsess and worry. I had to write it all down. the first few days were really easy, I had plenty to write down, but as the days wore on, it began to seem foolish, and also it got harder to do. At any other time of the day I started to obsess or worry - I wore a rubber band on my wrist and I pulled that sucker back and gave myself a big stinger - and said "STOP, THIS IS NOT MY TIME TO WORRY/OBSESS". You know - it worked. I really realized how much of my life was being wasted worrying. One thing I didnt have issues with was the aging and dying that really seem to be a hard thing for you. I have always felt we are born, we grow up, we live, we age, and we die. I guess it's what we do with the time between being born and dying that is what we are on this earth for. I am 56, and aging isnt something I ever think about. I LIKE that I am aging - it beats the alternate! Good luck !

I find it so weird that some people have no clue what anxiety is or what other people go through because they have never experienced it

just as I have not experienced what others have either

Hi Feary...

Can we tell us what you "sort of know?" Would be a great place to start...