[introm]

Does anyone get too excited (in a negative, paralyzing way) even by positive feedback?

I understand that people are sensitive to negative feedback, and some too sensitive (everything hurts then).

But, how do you deal when you are totally inactive and don't want to start anything new because that would produce a positive reaction by the people who like you?

It makes you live in a state of chronic passiveness.

[A Red Panda]

Check! I'm like that.

When I get any positive feedback, I can manage a "thanks" now, but inside I'm busy worrying about what ELSE I'm doing wrong that they aren't telling me, or that they're just trying to be nice and pity me because really, I'm quite a horrible person and maybe this is the only good thing they could ever think of, or I am worried that they'll now have high expectations of me and that I'll REALLY disappoint them the next time.... etc etc.

I don't really know how to deal with it. I just fake it and smile and say thank you and then I will likely withdraw quite a bit until I think the "expectation" has worn off.

[JoyDivision7680]

Oh yes, I get that all the time. I think it's because of my low self-esteem too. I feel anxious and even stupid when I receive positive feedback, I get that 'I am not supposed to be treated like this, this is not for me' feeling. When receiving a positive feedback I most likely screw up eventually. It's very difficult, because I feel bad for not receiving any feedback too. I get panicked easily when I get positive feedback.

[addcolin]

Exactly!
That's exactly how I react with positive feedback.
Always have; also probably much inferiority complex; now I'm the center
of attraction, with more of the same coming. . . - better not do that again!
This has 'crippled' me most of my life, and only now trying with therapy to deal
with these issues, maybe something with the add?

[optimize990h]

yes, introm I feel like that. My mind works with paranoia and fear from positive feedback, with fear of failure to live up to real or projected expectations of myself?

There are two three members who replied in this thread who expressed similar feelings or thought. Take care.

Originally Posted by introm

Does anyone get too excited (in a negative, paralyzing way) even by positive feedback?

I understand that people are sensitive to negative feedback, and some too sensitive (everything hurts then).

But, how do you deal when you are totally inactive and don't want to start anything new because that would produce a positive reaction by the people who like you?

It makes you live in a state of chronic passiveness.

[Mustkeepjob32]

I hate positive feedback because I feel that if i don't "oh please", it or flat out tell them they're wrong for telling me I do something good, I'm actually being cocky and boastful. It's hard to just say thank you.

[pinkkeith]

I dislike positive feedback as well. I get embarrassed by it and my face turns red. I never know exactly how to react to it. I use just mutter a "thank you". I'm not certain why I behave that way.

[SadMel]

I don't take positive feedback very well. For some reason it feels horrible and lingers with me for a while.