[pianolady]

I am an outsider. i feel alone. my family and maybe one other person is my friends. i cant seem to make friends easily. I get stressed trying to fit in, trying to act like them but knowing deep down i cant. Anyone find this hard? Am i just a quirky person who cant relate to otheps? I know part of it is me. My interests are classical music, writing, the arts, cooking but no one else seems to have that passion like i do!

[chipperdear]

Originally Posted by pianolady

I am an outsider. i feel alone. my family and maybe one other person is my friends. i cant seem to make friends easily. I get stressed trying to fit in, trying to act like them but knowing deep down i cant. Anyone find this hard? Am i just a quirky person who cant relate to otheps? I know part of it is me. My interests are classical music, writing, the arts, cooking but no one else seems to have that passion like i do!

I feel very similar a lot of the time. I'm not super close to my family, and while I have a few friends, I don't feel very close to them either. Part of it is my perception of it all, because if I was observing these relationships in other people, I'd think they were closer (if that makes sense). I don't fit in well with most people, never have, but all I can do is try. To me, if I don't try, I'll be completely miserable, but if I do, at least I gave it my best shot. I might be disappointed/stressed/etc, but I'm not miserable that way.

[shezbut]

Lots of people are into those things!

Have you gone to chamber music performances, tried joining a book club, or taken any community courses for cooking? Each of those is a place where you could meet others.

Like the previous poster, I understand feeling alone (even in a busy crowd). It's hard to feel so misunderstood ~ but it isn't uncommon. Try reminding yourself of that often. ((hugs)) sent your way.

[Ygrec23]

Originally Posted by pianolady

I am an outsider. i feel alone. my family and maybe one other person is my friends. i cant seem to make friends easily. I get stressed trying to fit in, trying to act like them but knowing deep down i cant. Anyone find this hard? Am i just a quirky person who cant relate to otheps? I know part of it is me. My interests are classical music, writing, the arts, cooking but no one else seems to have that passion like i do!

Well, pianolady, it sounds as if you and the rest of us here all feel pretty much similar. And yes, I guess all of us, guys and gals, find this equally hard. You're by no means the only one. There's a whole population of us out here living and feeling in the exact same way. And yes, even personally, I share with you interests in classical music, writing, the arts and cooking, too! But you'll find out that many others here share the same tastes!

Try not to feel so alone. Though they may be scarce on the ground where you live, there are many, many people throughout the world who share your tastes with you. So does my wife and so do so many other PC members here. Don't feel down and depressed about it. The world's a really big place with lots of people. And that means many others just like yourself who'd be perfectly happy to share their enthusiasms with you!

Take care!

[lancetrot]

Are you happy to be an outsider?

if you feel the need to confirm then you should find out what holds you an outsider by talking to the people individually, not as a group.

[pianolady]

thanks everyone. its nice to know I am not the only one. For anyone whe is in to classical music, do you know any online forums for that? Still feeling alone but its great it's not just me.

[waynec]

i too feel different, even when i am in a setting with a common theme, such as one of my model club meetings. it may be because i have a wide range of interests which do not lend themselves to stereotypes. i cook well and experiment often but am not really a foodie. i enjoy many types of music including classical and space. i build plastic models in a wood ship club and ship models in a plane and tank club. i am a grapics artist but consevative, talk about not fitting in. i am 60 and do not care about it any more. i am who i am and most days i like me. i relish my solitude but know i still need people time.

[insanity500]

I know you aren't the only one that finds it hard to fit in other people have that problem to and it's not just you sometimes it's the other people too..... By the way I love writing I'm not very good, but I love to do it anyway.....