[ladyjane4rent]

I need advice, tips, links to suggested reading material, stories, anything..

I am not sure how to educate my SO about what to do, how to react, how to help, how to understand what happens when an anxiety attack strikes.

Because last night, he was all like:

Do you have some idea of how you'd like him to react or help? Seems like the best place to begin
I don't think you could ever really make him understand what happens or how it feels.
Inject him with a big shot of adrenaline and hook him up to 20 volts of electricity and drop him off in a tank full of sharks? meh... he would know what was causing him to feel anxiety... that's an unfair advantage

[ladyjane4rent]

Originally Posted by George H.

Do you have some idea of how you'd like him to react or help? Seems like the best place to begin
I don't think you could ever really make him understand what happens or how it feels.
Inject him with a big shot of adrenaline and hook him up to 20 volts of electricity and drop him off in a tank full of sharks? meh... he would know what was causing him to feel anxiety... that's an unfair advantage

Mmm.. not really.. this is the first time in seven years that he was actually there when it happened. The first time [a few months ago] he came in the room just as I was starting to calm down.

The second time, he came in right smack in the middle and I was not wanting him there. But if he had left then I would have felt bad and guilty. So I want to be alone, but at the same time I am trying to see it through his eyes: "what the **** do I do?"

Tis a current conundrum.

BTW, Hi George! Haven't been on here in a while but you were the first one to 'welcome' me back!