[Setso]

i notice this freqently with myself. whenever something bothers me, I have to make a thread aobut it on a forum (not necessarily this forum) and i find no peace until someone else agrees with me and says "yeah thats messed up"

why am i like this? i been working on stopping, and doing it less and less...but i just hate it.

for example today in another forum there was this guy who was super stuck up and being a jerk

and i made a thread in another forum liike "why is he such a jerk? u guys think hes a jerk right?" and finally someone said, "yeah hes a jerk" and i felt some comfort

is this being needy? is it low self esteem? what is it? how to stop it?

think i'll just have more faith in myself, and be like "yeah i think this guys a total jerk, it doesn't matter who agrees or not - wont change the fact that to me he is a jerk. and regardless, with this behavior i am sure there is at least one person in this planet that would agreee with me."

so guess thats all i can do.

thanks guys.

lol sometimes feels like the best advice comes from within, also i think its important to find the blaance between what you should do - and what your willing to do.

maybe i should stop right here and not hit submit and post this thread. but i do want to get my feelings out so i probably will.

but either way everythings going to be okay, gotta believe.

“Happiness can be found even in the darkest of times, when one only remembers to turn on the light.” - dumbledore

[Miswimmy1]

That sounds like an OCD thing... Obsessively wanting reassurance and the only answer that will make u feel better it someone agreeing with you. Even if they don't truly agree, u have to hear it. I went through a thing like this- it drove everyone crazy- and everyone just ended up agreeing to everything I said cuz the didn't wanna listen to me. Get a therapist cuz OCD is rly difficult to deal with on your own, it's an amazing web of lies and anxiety

[~EnlightenMe~]

I have the same issue, although I don't know if I attributed it to my OCD dor not, but it wouldn't surprise me.
I love your Dumbledore quote! I think it's true, but sometimes one can't find the switch to turn on the light

Take care.

[dailyhealing]

It sounds to me like perhaps you need your feelings and thoughts validated a lot? I don't necessarily think this is a bad thing, and it's not hard to work on. As a child my feelings were not really validated at all, and I thought most feelings I had were wrong and/or bad. I needed a LOT of reassurance about my feelings for a long time. Still do sometimes, but it is a lot better! I found the process of being validated to be helpful, and I think a place like this is a good place to do that. Eventually as I became more confident and comfortable with my feelings I needed less reassurance.

Not sure this makes sense, but that's how I relate to what you said. Thanks for posting, hope to keep hearing from you!

[Setso]

Thanks guys
And yeah daily healing that sound legit

As a child I was made fun of a lot cuz of my goofiness.

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((((Setso)))) I echo Daily's sentiments. And I encourage you to keep posting and reaching out...nothing wrong with desiring support and validation. Especially if you are coming from a place (past or present) of being constantly invalidated, put down, bullied, scapegoated.

[Setso]

Thanks goise!
's to all!
Hang in there, we gonna get through this!

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[Setso]

Why am I so damn needyyy????

I can be upset then someone cheers me up, and within hours I'm upset again and don't cheer up until someone cheers me up

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[dailyhealing]

I understand that feeling...

[hamster-bamster]

Well, people are social animals. Not lone wolves. You are a social animal to an extreme. It sounds like this bothers you a bit; if that indeed is the case, you can try to wean yourself off approval and reassurance just a bit - not spend as much time on the forums, e.g. (if that is what bothers you) - or whatever. Or, you can accept yourself the way you are: dependent on social approval.

[TinaThinks]

I do this too. Not so much with wanting to confirm things like that but I second guess almost everything I say in writing that someone else is going to see and I can't stop worrying about it until someone says it's okay, sounds good, or that it won't cause a stir, or doesn't sound insensitive, or isn't too this or too that... I also have OCD, but like I said to someone else, there's no need to label yourself or put energy into thinking that there is something wrong with you. I think we both just need to work on being more confident and accepting the fact that what we think matters despite what anyone else might think about it.

Don't have much advice but you aren't the only one.