[Sweetness5]

I have always been an anxious person. But I just went through a life changing year (divorce, selling a house, pet died) and while I was going through it I met a guy. A guy I am crazy about. Who loves me as well. We moved in together after 9 months and have gone through all a lot of these changes together. But I can't shake my anxiety. I constantly need verbal reassurance from him. Physical reassurance. If I don't feel like he is giving it to me I ask him a million questions...do you love me? Are you sure you want to be with me? Are you going to leave me? Am I your best friend? He answers but is tired of telling me things and me not listening. All he wants is me to relax and have fun. If he wants to spend time away from me I worry he doesn't love me as much anymore. I try to but my anxiety gets the best of me. How can I stop needing reassurance? Stop reading into things? I feel pathetic and dependent and so desperate for his love. But he is giving me his love. How do I take care of myself so that I can save my relationship and my sanity?

Hi, I'm so sorry to hear about your tough year. You've been through a divorce which must have been a traumatic experience. Could it be that you are having trust issues due to the broken marriage? Its perfectly understandable that you don't want to have your heart broken and feel vulnerable again. But your boyfriend has stayed with you throughout all these difficult times and actions speak louder than words.
Do you have a social life apart from your boyfriend? I know its difficult to spend time apart, but doing things that make you happy or/and spending time with your friends can be very rewarding. It might also gives you the chance to view things from a different perspective. Also, have you ever told him what is going on in your mind and why you are so anxious of losing him? Maybe it would help to have an open conversation. Take care