[jdakota]

My main concern is wasting their time when they should be helping other people with more severe problems.

In my mind it IS serious enough. For the past couple of years I just wanted a job, i could live with having no friends, not being social, being a homebody but it's the dreaded"getting a job part" is what scared me crap less.

Went to a couple of interview but as I kept getting more rejections my anxiety grew where I start having mild attacks just thinking of the word job, resume, interviews. And would skip them in fear now. I even missed a chanfe ti get a job without an interview but had to call the women. That was 3 months ago. I'm pathetic.

Now I'm depressed also.. I think so I don't relly know for sure. What I do know is anxiety has been affecting me for awhile and don't think I'm going to snap myself our of it. But I don't know if I should even bother.

This has been going on for a long time and never bothered to deal with it..why should I now? *sigh*

[MichaelSacha]

I guess you should bother now because you didn't before :P. You said it yourself, this is serious enough to seek counselling and if you feel you should than you should.
We all fear rejection or being a burden, deep down at least, and it can take a lot of courage to try despite the fear. So if you could try and work, why not try therapy too. Sooner or later you have to succeed. And I'd like to know that you have .

[hamster-bamster]

Originally Posted by jdakota

My main concern is wasting their time when they should be helping other people with more severe problems.

1) You should not be trying to prioritize their tasks and organize their time. You are not their manager. If you want to prioritize somebody else's time and goals and determine what other people work on, you need to get yourself a people management position. It seems that right now you cannot even get an entry level position, though... right?

2) your problem is severe - you cannot get a job.

[jdakota]

Oops, I meant could instead of should. Sorry.
I just don't want to waste their time is all. And no it would be hell if I had to manage anyone. I can't even manage myself well enough.. A job where I'm out of people way making minwage is all I would like and would be able to get for the rest of my life.

I don't know what to say. I can't get over this one interview I had.. i was bawling before I got in, saying that it was a mistake for them to call me in and that i'm just worthless lying piece of crap. I'm glad the wouldn't hire me because it would suck and make them lose money. I' fear thats going to happen again. And embarsse myself. Couldn't make myself apply for a job since then.

Next Monday Ima see if I can get the courage to go this time.

[hamster-bamster]

OK, so if you do not want to go into healthcare administration to manage therapists, then go seek help and let the counselor decide whether to take your case. Let them manage their own time and priorities.

[jdakota]

I don't really know what your talking about hamster but i'm sorry geez. I don't want to manage anything. this was a bad idea even talking about this.. I knew it. Forget I typed anything..I'm so sorry. I'm not going anywhere...forget it.

Just someone delete this thread please. this was stupid to even post a thread.

[hamster-bamster]

You have a very severe problem. Make a therapy appointment, print out the thread and give the T to read.

[jdakota]

I don't like that word.. severe it sounds waay to harsh..i know i have a problem but it doesn't mean it's severe. I'm just making it sound worse than it actually is..pfft just being lazy..cause I sleep all day. I bet if they kick me out I'd actually do something.

'sides wouldn't able to afford anything..even if the clnic caters to uninsured people..geez that stuff isn't cheap..

And another thing what the heck am I suppose to say anyway? "I think I may have social anxiety?" pff that won't fly without proof. I bet their going to,"what is she doing here?" What am I doing here? Just cause I have a little anxiety? That's nothing compared to other people.

It's going to be nothing but a waste of time. I just know it. Just going to have to find another way. My parents are going to have to kick me out one day and when that day comes I'll get a job.

[hamster-bamster]

No, waiting for a catastrophe to happen before starting to act is not a good idea.

As I told you, you will not need to say anything to the counselor. Just print out this thread, which reveals so many symptoms.

[MichaelSacha]

Hamster-Bamster here may be a little blunt, but she's right. Print off this thread and see a counsellor, the signs of anxiety are right there. Now I'm going to make this very clear, you need to take slow and deep breaths. You know you need help, so ask for it and the counsellors will do what their paid to do. Everything will be fine, you just need to think a little less .

[hamster-bamster]

Eexactly, they are paid to do the job!!

[ECHOES]

It can be frightening to get what we want. It is understandable to feel uneasy about something new; after a while it won't feel new any more.

You will not be wasting their time. If you could 'snap out of it' then you would have, because you haven't been enjoying being anxious.

When you go, let the therapist know how uneasy you feel. He/she will understand because I would guess that 99% of people who begin counselling feel uneasy/frightened by it. The therapist will help you say why you are there. It can be simply that you feel anxious a lot and you don't like that. And that it's interfering with being able to work.
They will help you understand it, and help you with the fears that you have.

It will be okay. You won't be expected to solve this on your own. The therapist is there to help you learn about yourself and how to help your life feel better. You won't be expected to "perform" or prove anything. A therapist doesn't judge you or try to make you feel bad or feel guilty. They are just there to help you as best they can. They are an ally. I hope you will give yourself the gift of the opportunity to try and see how it goes.

[avlady]

It took me years to figure out the T's weren't my enemies, and the way i found out was that the newest and best T told me she wasn't my enemy but my friend-that little sentence changed my whole outlook

[kim24]

if your worries are enough that you can't do a job interview, you should see a therapist. there are people who go and pay a ton of money with far less problems then what you're having. posting this thread was not a mistake. you are worthy of a job, it make take some work to get there but you can do it.

It would definitely be helpful for a therapist to see this post, or if you keep any other writings. it can be a quick way to get a sense of what your thought processes are. I hope you do seek a therapist and improve.