[OMDme]

Dear, I have come across your website during my search for online help to my intense anxiety I am having currently . I am a female, 34 years old, have been in therapy for 3 years now. I have decided to go to therapy due to a relationship I had where by I identified with my ex and even went to changing my personality to try to make it work. ( this personality change I guess happened bec of me letting him make my decisions for me ). In my 3 years therapy, my psychologist and I were trying to find myself back. After 3 years, though we had a very good therapy ( positive transferance ) I was still feeling this is not me. Until I came across one psychiatrist and went for a first visit to get a second opinion. When I met him , I felt that his outlook for life resembles how I used to feel life before my relationship. But here my anxiety emanated and it is very extreme currently and for the first time I started taking medication (for anxiety). My thoughts are racing ; should I change ? What needs to be changed? How ? My lifestyle ? Who am I now? And mainly this last question: who am I?I'm sorry for this long story, but my main concern currently is to overcome this anxiety and for this I am trying to educate myself as much as possible. On the other hand, could you advise if I have made a good decision going to my new psychiatrist and doing therapy with him? How much should I give it time before deciding if I should go back to my former psychologist ? I appreciate any feedback I get, and in all cases, even having someone listen will be helpful.

[Jolisse]

Hello,
Sometimes therapy can bring up disturbing thoughts and feelings, which can make your anxiety worse. This happened to me, when I started digging into underlying feelings. I found, bringing these feeling to the forefront and facing them head on created a lot of sadness and distress. Yes my anxiety did get worse, but I'm facing the "demons" that have created it.
I'm starting to feel better and my anxiety has decreased, in the last month.
Only you know if your present therapist is right for you.

[OMDme]

Thank you Jolisse for your reply.
I have started working with my new therapist for 2 months now, and my question is how much time shall I give it before I start feeling well? What other adjoining techniques can I enroll to or get educated about could be of help?
Sometimes my thoughts even go to making me feel insane if that is the case can I be treated ?
Thank you for any help anyone can provide

[Jolisse]

Anxiety can make you feel you're going insane, until you understand how anxiety works. You are not crazy, your thoughts are out of control.
I tried many therapists, until I found the right one. She helps me control my thoughts that are causing anxiety and investigates, why I have anxiety. For me, finding out why I think this way, is the most important thing.
Meds help me through the anxiety and therapy helps me control it.
The big question, is your therapist putting a band aid on your anxiety, or trying to find the root cause of it?