Trying to get over my anxiety....

I posted this in the "Welcome" section and was directed here, so here it goes...

Late last year I started going out with a guy I work with. I'm 18, and he's a lot older than me, but I thought we'd try it and see if it would work. Because of the age difference, we had very different expectations. He was looking for a life partner, while I was just looking for someone to have fun with and maybe be with forever. I loved him, but last month I broke up with him. I did that because of my anxiety. Ever since I started going out with him, I would wake up in the morning feeling nauseated and usually vomit. Then I would also vomit if we went out or I thought about going somewhere with him. This went on for far too long and I'm ready to be done with it, but because we work together I see him almost every day. And he's said that he still wants to be with me, that he'll wait for me, etc. I finally told him that we're not getting back together, and I feel pretty terrible about it. But I know that's what's best for me-- though I do wonder sometimes.

So now to my question: What do I do? How do I get over this guy when I see him every day? And how do I get over my anxiety?
Thanks for any advice!

Have you ever had these anxiety symptoms, before?

As far, as dealing with a coworker, it just takes time, to be honest.

Do you, see a doctor, for treatment, because nausea and vomiting, do sound like something more is going on, that may need to be addressed.

Sometimes, in a pinch, when I have felt nauseous, I chew some gum. And one time, I had a nurse tell me, that lemonade, helped, and it did.

I understand what you're going through. I'm having a similar problem right now. My ex is everywhere I look (for diverse and depressing reasons).

If you really think that it's not a healthy relationship for you and it provokes such internal conflict, just remember that ultimately you can only make someone else happy if you yourself are happy. He may not be able to see it, but by stopping yourself from being in this relationship you're doing both of you a massive favour in the long run.

Just try and keep your relationship strictly professional. Make sure you don't have any communications outside of the office (whatsapp is a poison when it comes to trying to get over someone) and if you do communicate in the office it's only over work related themes or harmless chit-chat.

If you're sure about it, then stick to your guns and remember you're doing the right thing,.

Best of luck! And I hope that as the conflict/situation calms your symptoms start to go away. But as healingme4me says, maybe go to the doctor's just in case!

No, I've never had these symptoms before. Thank you so much for the advice. I really appreciate it!

Thanks, Benetduncan. Just having someone tell me that I'm doing the right thing is so helpful. And thanks for the advice. I'm going to try to keep it professional. Yesterday at work he avoided me most of the day, so that was actually kind of nice. I'm hoping the same happens today.

Best of luck to you, too. I'll be thinking of you and hoping things get better.

Oh, and by the way.... love the profile picture! Bowie is awesome!

May I add that GingerAle, and 7-up are stomach calming, also ginger tea and honey and lemon...nice Chai tea is tasty also.
regards
Jade

Good ideas, JadeAmethyst! Thanks so much!