Was anything this guy did to me reasonable?

I often like to take walks after dinner. My walking routine includes walking around streets and cul de sacs in my suburban neighborhood while on public way. I’ve had three incidents in the past with a guy in his twenties with tattoos on both arms and black plug earrings. The guy was probably around the age of 23-25.The guy pretty much looks like your stereotypical emo goth.


First time it happened I was just about to walk out of a cul de sac I had walked into. All of a sudden a car was speeding towards my way and slowed down. The windows rolled down and the tattoo guy stuck out his head. He stared at me and breathed heavily through his nostrils at me as if he was really pissed off at me. As I walked away, he drove away. However I noticed he turned into one of the cul de sac houses. I decided to walk over to that house hoping to have a talk with him, I had no idea what just happened. If he had a problem with me he should have said something instead of staring at me and flaring his nostrils at me. When I calmly walked over, he stood there waiting. He said to me “Hi I see you” in a baby mock voice and flashed a laser pointer into my eyes. He wasn’t going to talk to me, so I turned and walked away.

Second time I walked elsewhere. Everything seemed fine until 7 p.m. I noticed him following me on his bike. I began walking at a faster pace to lose him. I eventually jogged to a local elementary school hoping to find help. He followed me there and circled around the school waiting to get close to me. No one else was there to help me, no homes nearby, etc. This guy basically had trapped me. So I hid in the bushes hoping he would lose interest if he can’t find me to follow around. Unfortunately he rode his bike to a hill on the playground and spotted me. I moved to the left and right behind the bushes and he mimicked my movement on his bike. I didn’t know what his intentions were. There was a fence behind me and I jumped over it and ran to a dry creek bed. He got off his bike and ran after me. This guy wasn’t going to leave me alone. I turned around and in an indignant voice I yelled at him “What do you want from me?” The guy said “Come here” I told him “No!” He then said “I know where you live little boy” “Ahahaha”. And then he turned around and left me alone.

A month later I walked straight past the entry of the cul de sac but not into it. All of a sudden I hear loud footsteps behind me. “Hey”. I turned around and it was the guy again. He walked closer to me and then stopped and kept a distance from me. He crossed his arms to his chest and then peered over my left shoulder to make sure there was no one else in the area. He then said to me “Why are you always walking around my f***ing place?” I told him I like to talk walks. He then said to me “I don’t know I don’t believe you, I always see you walk around my place and it seems I don’t know just peculiar”. I told him “You followed me around, I don’t know what you want” I also told him “I’m just walking, I swear.” He then said “Alright WALK” in a reluctant tone and let me go.
Also I checked the address for the home on a local police arrest and ticket search. His name is Jason. He’s had tickets/arrest for fail obey stop/yld sign, 60-64mph/45mph zone, too many in front seat, obstruct justice w/o threat/force, and DWI: 1st offense. Not sure if this explains his behavior.
I was able to find his profile on a social networking website. I asked him why he chose to do what he did and if was trying to tempt me to fight.
He sent me a message to me saying.
"Little squirt, fighting was never an option, I'd have smacked that smirk off your face two times. Next time youre in the middle of the road when I come by get the hell out of the road, yeah I looked at you, I've got places to be and don't have time to stand in the middle of the road looking smug. Better keep hiding in the bushes, I see you again you go back into the bushes or else. Each time you walk watch for a bush to hide in if you see me coming."
I never smirked at him, cussed at him, or walked like a smug.

Please answer this for me: Was anything he did to me reasonable?
My neighborhood has no sidewalks, but the roads have white outer lines separating where drivers can drive and walkers can walk. Lots of people in my neighborhood walk on the outer edge (lots of space between driver and pedestrian walkers) of the road even with their dogs with no problem. I did not trespass, damage personal property, steal, or did anything else to this guy. I actually moved out of the way for him (car was driving pretty fast) in the 1st encounter, if he needed more room he could have said something, but he didn’t. I don’t know him. I’m so confused, I feel like a coward for running from him; I’ve never encountered something like this or as to why this has happened to me?!?

I would carry a cellphone with me and call the cops.

I would go to your local police department and report what has happened, and if anything else happens, go again so it's on file. He shouldn't be chasing, you, WTF. I'd report it NOW so if anything else happens, you can get a restraining order against him sooner if need be.

It saddens me to see that this is still disturbing you so.

I can't help but notice this is your fourth thread pertaining to the incident.

Of course I'm the master of posting and deleting threads on some of the past traumas I'm still trying to process, so nothing is wrong with you, me or that either!

Intrusive memories, flashbacks and constantly reliving a trauma over and over inside our heads ... Or in this case outside - which isn't all bad, because it may be helping you process it - could be a sign that we've developed PTSD.

I hope you have a therapist that specializes in PTSD so they can help you to process this event to the point it becomes less and less disturbing to you.

I'm going to also post a link to one of your earlier threads as well as my initial response to it to hopefully reassure you that what happened to you was not reasonable, and NO! ... You are NOT a coward!

However, how you deal with it will determine whether or not it escalates or deteriorates over time, so again, I wish you the best in recovering from this traumatizing incident!

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http://forums.psychcentral.com/post-...-i-coward.html

It matters not who started what.

There's a saying ... I'd rather be a live coward than a dead hero ...

Nothing good will come out of fighting this guy.

Also, it could quite possibly backfire on you and get you into all sorts of legal headaches and trouble.

You are not a coward for walking away.

It's called self preservation.

It's also called taking the high road.

Those of us with PTSD have to work extra hard to not be triggered and/or sucked in.

Work it for all it's worth!

Sincerely,
Pfrog!

(06/08/2013 @ 6:29 p.m.)