[UtmostAnger]

I find it almost impossible to speak to people my age at first I didn't realize it but it has been this way since middle school .

I think what would help me most is if I kept an ongoing chat with someone my age on here (16). I need someone to tell me no one dwells on every syllable I say.
Life is becoming a very uncomfortable event and I can just sit out and hide all of my life.

[manwithnofriends]

are you sure everyone in your class (or school) doesn't feel the same way you do? maybe you can tell that some of them feel the same way as you?

[UtmostAnger]

I am in culinary at my school and the same class stays together for more than the half of the day so we all know each other.

[manwithnofriends]

I'd say it's good to be the quiet one in your class and spend more time doing what you should be doing at school (i.e. study) so when your classmates get stuck you can help them... I guess

[UtmostAnger]

Originally Posted by manwithnofriends

I'd say it's good to be the quiet one in your class and spend more time doing what you should be doing at school (i.e. study) so when your classmates get stuck you can help them... I guess

But sometimes I want to say something, I want to laugh with someone. I have had a very patient boyfriend luckily but sometimes he wants to talk to his friends its not fair for me to depend on him all day.

[Goldenair]

yea..and then i have a presentation tommorrow..ive been worrying about this since few months ago and i feel deadly..

[elevatedsoul]

im 24 years old now, i have always had trouble talking too.. i wouldnt talk in school or if i did i was getting in trouble because of other silly kids, i would go days without saying things to my family.. i dont know what else to add besides you're not alone and you can be ok through it.. i just didnt pay much attention to it, i formed some bad habbits because of it too.. so my advice to you would be reading about introvert-ism and try to let yourself be who you are; if you are a person that doesnt talk much, then there is nothing wrong with that.. atleast in my eyes i prefer not speaking much, less problems come from that

i never would speak up in school either but i was straight A student.. dont let it get too you too much unless it starts interrupting your life drastically like it did me, i would even go without eating because i didnt want to talk... but there is nothing wrong with being quiet, timid, etc etc.. specially at 16 i would say, it keeps you out of trouble and thats a good thing

i would try to focus on my school work for now and not worry about it much, talking in school is overated too in my honest opinion

if it does get bad and you feel you arent talking enough or are neglecting yourself because of this then try to talk to one of your parents about it if possible.. and if you cant talk to them, could you talk to the school counselor? i was placed in advanced classes which made it easier for me because the other kids didnt "chat" and play around

dont feel alone, im sure there are many others out there... its not such a bad thing, i enjoy it myself and even at 24 years old i still am superbly quiet / introverted

i hope you feel better soon and that i said something to help, 4:30am so if im not coherent and you want to send me a pm thats ok

stay safe

btw, have you read about social anxiety? no one really does focus on every syllable you say as much as it feels like they do.. only you do, (us social phobics)

[propliopithecus]

Originally Posted by elevatedsoul

... so my advice to you would be reading about introvert-ism and try to let yourself be who you are; if you are a person that doesnt talk much, then there is nothing wrong with that.. atleast in my eyes i prefer not speaking much, less problems come from that ...

Your vision resembles that of the following book:
Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can?t Stop Talking - Susan Cain Audiobook Torrent Downloads, Free Audio Book Torrents, 68126
Susan Cain argues for the value of introversion and expresses a kind of satisfaction with being introvert.
I believe in the value of introverts for a lot of functions for which they strange enough now require extraversion, but personally I was never satisfied with behaving quiet.
I valued talking a lot. I despised introverts. I knew that for others I was like them, but I didn’t felt that I really was that way. In my imagination I was the one who was constantly talking. My parents and bothers were introverts who were satisfied with it, I considered them boring. At the same time I said totally nothing in the company strangers (among which class mates I knew for years), while they did speak. I was also neurotic.
But maybe is the kind of expression I wanted introverted expression.
Now a days I am maybe more satisfied with my introversion. I am not someone for dancing and singing. But still I want to talk with others and am bored when I don’t talk. Yes, I read the whole day; a very introverted hobby, but I am also bored or I suffer from sleep deprivation.

Same here~ I'm 16, too, and I hate speaking in the public. My voice shakes and my speech is sometimes still divided.

For me, I only talk to people that I feel comfortable with and who I see that I can trust. So basically I'm so quiet up to the point of me looking anti-social. Whenever I try to talk to people, I can't make eye contact. Even as I'm talking with my friends, my eyes would wander past them or look at the floor. Yeah, my communication skills suck :P

You're not the only one!

[UtmostAnger]

Originally Posted by Goldenair

yea..and then i have a presentation tommorrow..ive been worrying about this since few months ago and i feel deadly..

I know exactly what you mean and then you think you have built up your confidence but then you shake the whole time. I suggest practicing in front of your friends it might be odd for them but if they care they will help you out.

[UtmostAnger]

dont feel alone, im sure there are many others out there... its not such a bad thing, i enjoy it myself and even at 24 years old i still am superbly quiet / introverted

i hope you feel better soon and that i said something to help, 4:30am so if im not coherent and you want to send me a pm thats ok

stay safe

btw, have you read about social anxiety? no one really does focus on every syllable you say as much as it feels like they do.. only you do, (us social phobics)[/QUOTE]

I really should read about that. It is the real reason why I can't speak often. I'm glad i'm not alone and thank you for your view on how over-rated talking can be

[Roundpitt]

I had a huge problem speaking to other people when I was your age. (I'm 22 now)
I fixed my problem by forcing myself to talk to people.
You don't need anything to talk about. Go sit down next to someone and force yourself on them. Don't think about it just do it. The moment you start thinking about how dumb it is, you lose.

1. smile!
2. Hi my name is _____!
3. How are you!?

Also, start with a guy. Seriously. Girls are still tricky for me.

[RAWRcarrie]

Originally Posted by UtmostAnger

I find it almost impossible to speak to people my age at first I didn't realize it but it has been this way since middle school .


I think what would help me most is if I kept an ongoing chat with someone my age on here (16). I need someone to tell me no one dwells on every syllable I say.

Life is becoming a very uncomfortable event and I can just sit out and hide all of my life.

I have learned that in all honesty most people are worried about the same exact thing, some people run their mouths constantly to deal with it (like me, constant smartassery) but once I realized that everyone was just as uncomfortable as I was I realized no one really cares. Everyone is stressing on themselves too much to dwell on anything anyone else says. It's kinda sad but really, no one cares.... I was trying to make you feel better, that's not supposed to sound insulting.. I do hope you understand what I mean

[antisocialbutterfly]

i hate speaking to people as well, especially public speaking. i've seriously considered dropping out of school so i don't have to do speeches anymore.

[propliopithecus]

Originally Posted by antisocialbutterfly

i hate speaking to people as well, especially public speaking. i've seriously considered dropping out of school so i don't have to do speeches anymore.

Have you ever prepared a speech very well? Practicing it until you could do it flawlessly?
If you do something well, it can even become rewarding.
By the way, this is pure speculation. I never did it myself, but I think now that I should have done that. At the university I held two speeches, both badly prepared. At secondary school I never held any speeches as far as I can remember.