I feel like I'm annoying and that people hate me all the time.

I have a tendency to think that people think I'm really annoying or that they sort of hate me or something. Today I emailed a psychologist about meeting up (I haven't had a therapist in months now). We were supposed to meet up for the first time last Monday but her child got sick so she had to cancel. So yeah, I emailed her today to ask for another appointment but now I think she probably thinks I'm the most annoying person in the world (she hasn't replied yet by the way). I also wrote a message to a person I've gotten to know recently (she hasn't replied either). It was a short message where I was just asking her how she's doing. Now I, for some reason, think she probably thinks I'm bothering her and that she doesn't want me to contact her. I even feel like that when I'm posting things here.

I feel insufficient and inferior all the time. I feel like a burden as soon as I contact people or ask questions. As soon as I contact someone I have to contact (psychologists, teachers etc) I feel like I'm the last person they want to hear from. I spend quite a bit of time worrying if I've done something wrong or if I'm too intense or something. It feels like they're all judging me.

I don't know if this is caused by my social anxiety disorder, low self-esteem, a combination of both or something else. All I know is that it's freaking annoying and scary.

Can you relate to this? Why do I think people hate me all the time?

why are you emailing people that's snail mail. people hardly check their emails these days, I know I do. try using a phone next time, you'll thank yourself for the fast responance. I know wait on dating websites for people to check their mail , hurt my self esteem... why hurt your esteem by using e-mail, use the phone.

Well, the psychologist knows I don't like talking on the phone and she's ok with emails (she checks them) and I'm still too worried about texting the person I've gotten to know recently. We've communicated via emails for a while (when we don't talk in person that is).

Anyway, it's not really about the emails to be honest. I would feel the same way even if I used the phone. The point is I feel like people think I'm annoying all the time (even though I don't know if they actually are). I don't really know when it's ok to contact people and when they want me to contact them or not. Is there some sort of social rule I should know about (my social skills aren't the best)?

I'm fine with emails, and my p-doc uses them. As for your feelings of people disliking you, I wish I had some magic words to help you. I do think that all people have the feeling you've described to one degree or another. The best advice I can offer is to just notice the thoughts about being inadequate and continue to do what you need to do. And remember the wonderful Zen saying: "What you think of me is none of my business."

You are not alone. When speaking to others, I often feel as if I'm making a fool of myself, annoying others, and as if I'm being a nuisance. I feel as if others are talking about me in a negative manner. I believe I'm someone people just tolerate. What's strange is that I don'tbhave a problem talking to others. I suspect my issue is slight paranoia and feelings of inadequacy due to esteem issues which have been going on ever since I can remember. It os good to know I am not alone.

I'm even terrified to stand in line at a store (in the rare times I go to a store). Sometimes I will stay back in an aisle and wait for there to be no line so I don't get in anyone's way.

By chance, do you also get angry at people in your way?

Some just hate calling people on the phone. Like me. It makes me terribly anxious.

OP, I feel annoying all the time too. Like, no matter who I approach they will immediately think "ugh not her again." When I moved to the capital city I couldn't go inside a shop and buy stuff because I was terrified that I would get in someone's way and they'd get mad at me. Took me a few weeks to get over the fear.
It's always a great relief though when people turn out to be nice.

I generally refuse to talk on the phone, that is so stressful... can't keep all of my thoughts organized while also remembering what they had just said and also remembering to reply to that. And no way to see their reactions. Blech.

I feel the exact same way. I always pet others go before me not because I want to be kind but because I don't want to be in the way

At my daughters school at home time all the parents wait in the playground, but as soon as the door opens they all surge forward. I always stand at the back out of the way.. Mainly because I don't want people touching me when they start jostling to collect their child, also because were all getting our kids back so what's the rush? But then I get so angry in my head because they're doing this. It happens in many situations. And I can stay angry for a good hour afterwards sometimes which is just ridiculous!

i definitely relate to this. id say that if its focused more on the other person its the social anxiety and if its focused more on you its the low self esteem. but of course those are all wrapped together.

i worry and ruminate an awful lot about being a burden to others. borrowing peoples items no matter how minor bothers me, same with using communal things. i dont like to take cookies from free cookie jars in a lobby because i dont want to use up what "should" be someone else's cookie. asking someone for help is incredibly hard; reminding them of their promise if they forgot is basically impossible.

Ive had a problem lately where if people who know me are in a room together I'm afraid to enter the room because I think they're talking bad about me. Its not even that im scared to hear someone dislikes me, its that im scared I will make them feel awkward if they are

today i was curled up on the couch feeling kind of sad, and i suddenly worried that looking so dreary would upset someone if they saw me. so i tried to look like i was not sad but then I thought that i am probably annoying to see regardless, because my presence is a constant reminder i am "taking up resources" when i dont have a full-time job or school and thus "dont deserve them". but its not possible for me to go somewhere where no one will notice me and i can still obtain the things i need, so of course i got more upset and started crying, which brings us back around to the start of this paragraph again

i started feeling better a little while ago tho. and so i dont forget: those thoughts are distorted and false. people usually are not talking about me and when they are its usually not bad. its ok to be upset, worry other people, and take up space and resources. and a persons worth is much more than their economic value.
(this is true for anyone reading this too.)

I've always had that thing where I feel like I'm in the way. I'm always trying to get out of the way. Except lately I haven't left my apartment hardly at all the past 18 months.

If it weren't for medical things (weekly blood draws and such), I would never willingly leave... hell, I start to feel panic if I'm in the right lane but not turning and someone is behind me waiting to turn. I just need to... not be in people's way. I feel their eyes and their hate.

I keep rescheduling and canceling appointments which isn't good. But I guess that's another topic.

I think its a combination... I experience the same thing. I feel like if i dissapeared everybody would be relieved.

I can very much relate, as an ex depressive. When you are that way, the slightest implicit criticism can cause a huge amount of emotional pain. If that's happening to you, you may be afraid of these people. People sense that fear and it makes them uncomfortable. As a result, they avoid you, thus confirming your suspicions that they don't really like you. A self-reinforcing, self-fullfilling loop.

Wait...Emailing is now snail mail!??!?
God I'm old.

I also feel like a bother and people only do things for me or speak to me out of pity. Especially with depression, which makes me a really dull person without anything to offer.

I know exactly how you feel. For the longest time, I felt this very same way. I never actually pin pointed what exactly made me feel that way, but the way I overcame it was to understand that in order to get things done, you must be assertive. Emailing or calling for another appointment with a T is a not a bad idea, and at times, you have to keep on them to get one scheduled. It can be hard to get in to see a T, and you're not to blame for keeping up with your responsibilities to get assistance. Remember, that there's always scenarios that can be worse.

I've been told plenty of times that it's an off day with my bipolar where I think everyone hates me or is mad at me. Just take a deep breath, and realize that you are not being annoying. You are just being responsible for your own well being. Real friends love to hear from each other, and you shouldn't fret having the contact with them that you do. All I hear is healthy relationships and responsibility. That's it.

I don't know what you went through in your life, but I believe it's more of a self-esteem issue. I know that very well: if others have made you feel inferior, you will begin carrying these thoughts with you after a while. I myself was bullied and laughed at often times and it's just natural to suspect others to have negative opinions on you, as a result. I can really relate to what you're feeling right now. Every slightest reaction or "disreaction" can make you think: Omg, I'm so dumb and annoying. He/she probably thinks I'm a total retard now.