[live2ski66]

Is often associated with children. Have you experienced it as an adult (left over from non treated childhood disorder)? What kind of treatment have you experimented with and what has given you relief? Thanks in advance

[spondiferous]

Hi live2ski66. I experience this and the only I can do is keep going. Like, instead of insisting that I'm not left alone, for example, I challenge myself to go through those experiences and do things that I enjoy, rather than focusing on the anxiety of being separated. I haven't done any specific treatment, although, since I honestly believe the things I face today are a direct result of unhealed childhood traumas, I suspect that all of the treatment I have sought out has affected it in some way.

I think the thing that has been most effective for me has been embarking on a spiritual path. That can mean different things to different people. In essence, it's learning to tap into the idea that I am not alone on this Earth. I am connected to everything around me, even if it's not in my direct presence at all times. It helps me to feel more safe and stable, and to be able to access that without having to rely on someone else for it.

Hope this helps.

[birdpumpkin]

I just discovered last week that that is a lot of what has been going on with me lately. My husband, son, and I lost our home and everything in December from a house fire. I lost all 8 of my 10 cats - 2 are missing and have never been found despite searching every evening for 3 months. Ever since then, my anxiety has been through the roof, but I found when I'm with someone I'm a lot calmer. I don't like to be left alone now; but I'm forced to because my son has to go to school, and my husband has to go to work. It's been really hard. I have no friends but those online. That doesn't help when you need to talk to someone directly or need a hug. Now my mom is in the hospital an hour away, so I'm experiencing it even more right now. It's hard with her being gone and unavailable for me if I would want to call or stop in. I'm only 4 miles away from my parents' house. I wake every morning shaky and sick to my stomach. I hope every day my husband isn't home late from work or gets called back out. It's miserable. I can't get any therapy because we have no insurance, so I've been on my own through all this and feel I'm getting worse rather than better. I worry about everything - bills, whatever, and am driving my husband crazy. I had my mom upset at the hospital yesterday because my son and I were having trouble with the elevator. It wouldn't open at the first floor where we needed to be to get to the lobby where my husband was waiting on me. It went up and opened everywhere else but at the first floor - nothing. The doors wouldn't open. Like it was just stuck there. So I was getting panicky, my son was already panicking and wanting daddy... So what do I do but run to mom as always - back up to the 4th floor to mom's room and seeing if she could call a nurse to help us. Why didn't I just find one myself?? I don't know. But dad called on the way home wondering if we were okay because she called him crying and upset, so he called her back and let her know. I'm starting to affect the people around me, too. Right now I'm trying positive affirmations. Just trying to talk to myself and calm myself down. Plus have made some index cards with phrases on them I found on a website. Hoping over time these will take effect. I tried it long ago, and they really built up my self-esteem.

[lizzyjb]

When I was fired some years ago I just have left mother home to live with my husband. I live one hour outside Madrid where my parents, my sisters and most of my friends live. One hour driving, two by train.
Suddenly I find myself in a new place, far away all that I knew, in a small rural area. No friends, no shops, no mall and with a lot of time. I was told then that I couldn't have a baby (two abortion ).
Then my nightmare started. I needed my family, my friends, being near all my life.
It takes me two years of T and meds to feel better. Just a little bit. Because separation anxiety doesn't dissspear. I still miss see my parents all days. And it is worst nowadays that I see they are getting older and I only see them twice a month.
I had some friends here but I have troubles with one of them. She has depression, generally anxiety disorders and pain sindrom. She's talking all day about how other people has a bad behaviour with her talking bad behind them. With several common friends lost due to her because she was always saying they were bad with her, six months ago she started to say that I don't care her and has put against me the last friends we have in common. Now all of them leave me and talk about me.
So I feel very much worst I am starting to feel agoraphobia. Hate to go out my house and meet any of them at the local store or simply walking. I feel more anxious and all of that makes myself miss much more my family and my friends that are a little bit far away.
More separation anxiety of course.
I still talk them, phone, mail but it's not the same. I can't meet them all I would like due to my money issues.
I have some people to talk here but they are not friends so I feel anxious and alone.
As you say they're not here for a hug or I little coffee chat.
Only have my husband so when he leaves for work my nightmares starts.
Several more bad issues this year with my husband works so I am always thinking that the worst is coming and I can't control my anxiety. When a bad notice came or bills I start shivering.
I understand all of you because I can't deal with all of this by myself.
Hugs.