[EternallyAlone]

Haven't been in this in years but I don't know where else to turn, my fiancée who I've lived with two years seems disinterested no matter how much he insists he's not, I don't have any friends anymore, and he knows because of my anxiety it's gotten so bad that I can't sleep alone and he's went and slep round his parents, who are horrible to him and he barely gets along with anyway cause it's his sisters birthday,who he also can't stand, and he was meant to pay a bill on his way round and send a quick message letting me know he had and he didn't, and then when I rang to confront him he was horrible on the phone, it's not just him, no one cares anymore, no one cares at all and I can't cope anymore, I don't wanna be here, and I'm on the verge of an anxiety attack and I don't know what to do,
Sorry if this doesn't make sense
Ash

[XSleepingSiren21X]

Have you tried talking with a psychiatrist before? They can find solutions or benefit you to try and cope with things. Or work with you to help bring you to a solid baseline so you'll be able to corporate your problems and manage others in the process. You just need to take the time to really put in your effort to try and help yourself a little. It's hard to, but it's possible.

[Bluegrey]

Originally Posted by EternallyAlone

Haven't been in this in years but I don't know where else to turn, my fiancée who I've lived with two years seems disinterested no matter how much he insists he's not, I don't have any friends anymore, and he knows because of my anxiety it's gotten so bad that I can't sleep alone and he's went and slep round his parents, who are horrible to him and he barely gets along with anyway cause it's his sisters birthday,who he also can't stand, and he was meant to pay a bill on his way round and send a quick message letting me know he had and he didn't, and then when I rang to confront him he was horrible on the phone, it's not just him, no one cares anymore, no one cares at all and I can't cope anymore, I don't wanna be here, and I'm on the verge of an anxiety attack and I don't know what to do,
Sorry if this doesn't make sense
Ash

((Eternally Alone))
It's so hard being in this situation, and the worry makes things so much worse. I've recently been in a no-win situation and some of my emotions were very similar to the ones you describe in yourself (still are up to a point, but not so bad now).

Apart from finding some sort of therapy help, it might be useful to try breathing exercises when it's feeling really bad - with me they at least take the edge off the panic which gives a bit of thinking space.

It sounds as if your fiancé is also finding things tough, perhaps, what with the family contact etc. It's difficult when both people in a couple are needing help.

Please try to carry on, and don't give up. There are lots of people here who will be able to help you and who really will understand where you are coming from. I'm sorry I don't have more to offer, but please take care of yourself, be kind to yourself and know that you are not alone.


Bluegrey

[avlady]

I agree with Bluegrey, keep on trying and don't give up.

[EternallyAlone]

Thank you

[CosmicRose]

Sounds like he needs more help and support right now, and you might be taking his distancing as a personal attack on you, which it doesn't sound like it is. Try being more supportive for him instead of feeling like you're about to have an anxiety attack because of the way he's acting. He might be depressed right now or maybe even just going through a phase or a hard time at work. Just give it some time and try to go easy on him and everything. Let him talk to you when he wants to. Just focus on taking care of your emotional needs right now, and see where it goes from there.