My wife came home from work this afternoon perturbed for a couple of different reasons. She wasn't mad at me. But her stalking about & abrupt manner upset me. It's been over two and a half hours since she arrived home. Things are now calm & back to normal. But my whole body is still quivering inside. I'm breathing into my anxiety in an effort to reduce my anxiety. So far, I'm making little progress.

[CANDC]

Skeez I get the same thing when my other sets me off.

I go to the breathing help

Breathing exercise - use natural breathing do not force.
If you are feeling very anxious or angry or just want to calm down, you can try a breathing exercise that takes the attention away from the trigger of anxiety to a simple tool of counting breaths.

Find a comfortable position seated or laying down. Begin to relax your breathing. Silently count 1 on the inhale, and two on the exhale. Then silently count 3 on the inhale and 4 on the exhale. Continue up to 10 or until you lose the count then return to one. No judgement. I sometimes end up at 18 then smile and return to 1. The idea is to focus on the breath and the counting and not get sucked into the anxiety or anger trigger. Also works to quiet the mind.

[QUOTE=CANDC;4181350]Skeez I get the same thing when my other sets me off.

Thanks for replying to my Thread. CANDC. I also was working my way up the Unanswered Threads list. If no one else had replied before I got to it, I was going to reply to my own Thread!

[Hound]

Sorry you feel that way, I hope things settle down for you. The "quivering" on the inside is how I feel too when my anxiety is high.

[Fiona Alianor]

So sorry. I know how you feel. I pick up negative emotions so easily. My husband has a terrible temper, and when he gets angry and starts yelling, even if it's not at me, I absorb all of the negativity, and feel all jittery and anxious, and it's so hard to get rid of. I hope you can get some relief and feel calm and relaxed very soon.

Actually, I was surprised at how I reacted to this, this evening. These situations always affect me. But usually it's limited to just my mood. This evening it was physical. So now I'm wondering if this is a new "wrinkle" for me. (BTW... that quivery feeling has now passed.)

[Disorder7]

I think I've been jittery pretty much each for the past 8 months. Yesterday I had a huge breakthrough with my counselor about an issue I have been repressing. Finally, today I'm relaxed.

The mind is a freaky thing. Particularly the subconscious part.

I hope you are doing better today. I guess I just don't want you to feel weird for your emotions. There are reasons for them. Even when we are unaware of those reasons. Take care.

[lkbun14]

I get the quivering too! I'm just curious as to why your partner's behavior affects you so much? For me, I always felt like I had some responsibility for the behavior or could control it/change it. Learning that this isn't possible has been hard for me to accept. I agree that these feelings come from somewhere, but sometimes it's hard to dig down and find out exactly why. Hope you're feeling better!

Originally Posted by lkbun14

I get the quivering too! I'm just curious as to why your partner's behavior affects you so much? For me, I always felt like I had some responsibility for the behavior or could control it/change it. Learning that this isn't possible has been hard for me to accept. I agree that these feelings come from somewhere, but sometimes it's hard to dig down and find out exactly why. Hope you're feeling better!

It's been over 15 years now since I've been gainfully employed. Since then, I've only done some volunteer work periodically. During that time, my wife has been employed full time. Neither of us have any close friends or family. Consequently, I have spent large amounts of time by myself.

The outcome of this situation has been, what little bit of tolerance I ever had for being around other people, has pretty-much disappeared. I even find it challenging to spend large amounts of time with my wife. She tends to talk allot when she's home. And after awhile, it gets on my nerves. I absolutely must have significant amounts of time alone. This is going to become a larger issue soon. My wife is retiring in a week!