[Nike007]

Hello. Today my social anxiety really spiked because of work. This was because a customer was complained to me about how our prices were too high for service, but the store has compared them to other places and they aren't but the customer is always right so... And I can't deal with angry people because my social anxiety spikes. I did everything good, but I almost had a panic attack from it. My cheeks are filled with heat and my heart was starting to shake. If it lasted any longer, than I would have had a panic attack. I thought I was going to get a headache from it. I didn't luckily. But I really wanted to cry. I still want to cry, but I am better since the situation ended. I can't stop thinking about it though. I am so anxious. I don't like angry people. I can't deal with it.

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[Nike007]

Actually, I am now having a panic attack. I am super shaky and even writing this is kinda hard because it is hard to think straight. I am too anxious and it has got to me.

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[CycloMary]

I'm sorry. I had a panic attack yest at work.
I know how debilitating, embarrassing & traumatizing they can be.
Just know it will pass.
The feelings will pass.
It sucks but they can't really hurt you. They trick you into thinking they will.
But they are just feelings.
Best wishes

[convalescence]

Nike007, I'm sorry that you experienced a panic attack. They are difficult to cope with. Sometimes, uncomfortable or awkward situations spike my anxiety like crazy. It's irritating. Anxiety should naturally come down though, even if it does take a long time.

If you don't mind me asking, what is it about angry people that makes you think that you can't deal with it?

[Nike007]

Originally Posted by convalescence

Nike007, I'm sorry that you experienced a panic attack. They are difficult to cope with. Sometimes, uncomfortable or awkward situations spike my anxiety like crazy. It's irritating. Anxiety should naturally come down though, even if it does take a long time.

If you don't mind me asking, what is it about angry people that makes you think that you can't deal with it?

The thing about angry people is it makes me think I did or said something wrong. I have terrible social skills, and waiting to be tested for ASD so I have no idea what I am usually doing. I know I didn't say anything wrong, but I feel like I did.

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[EDMLover]

I know how you feel. I also suffer from social anxiety, so trust me, I know how it is. I don't have the best social skills either, and I absolutely hate the awkwardness when I'm around others.

[Baroness4tea]

Originally Posted by Nike007

Hello. Today my social anxiety really spiked because of work. This was because a customer was complained to me about how our prices were too high for service, but the store has compared them to other places and they aren't but the customer is always right so... And I can't deal with angry people because my social anxiety spikes. I did everything good, but I almost had a panic attack from it. My cheeks are filled with heat and my heart was starting to shake. If it lasted any longer, than I would have had a panic attack. I thought I was going to get a headache from it. I didn't luckily. But I really wanted to cry. I still want to cry, but I am better since the situation ended. I can't stop thinking about it though. I am so anxious. I don't like angry people. I can't deal with it.

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Did you ever talk to your doc about propanolol? It is a beta blocker often used for performance anxiety (likeublic speaking). If I get panicky and my heart pounds and I shake, it also helps me. It is a prn medication for me. I also take Neurontin for my bipolar disorder and it has helped with both mood stabilization and anxiety. At least you did make it through your situation! I am proud of you!

[Nike007]

Originally Posted by Baroness4tea

Did you ever talk to your doc about propanolol? It is a beta blocker often used for performance anxiety (likeublic speaking). If I get panicky and my heart pounds and I shake, it also helps me. It is a prn medication for me. I also take Neurontin for my bipolar disorder and it has helped with both mood stabilization and anxiety. At least you did make it through your situation! I am proud of you!

Yes. That is what I wanted. I asked her about propranolol, but she said she didn't want to give anything off label so...

It's good you found something that helps both your mood and anxiety. I don't have bipolar disorder, so my pdoc would say no for sure.

And thank you . I made it through. I had a panic attack a few hours later because of the situation, but I am fine now so that's good .

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[CopperStar]

I work in retail / customer service, and honestly the only way I can cope with angry / nasty customers is to take on a rather narcissistic mentality, it's the only way I've been able to cope over the years with things like that, and is probably largely responsible for a lot of my snark in general.

Like I just basically have to convince myself that they are all just pathetic stupid crybabies and that nothing they think, feel or say matters at all. I go through each shift creating this distance between myself and the customers, constantly reinforcing to myself (not outwardly of course, but inwardly) that they don't matter, their words and behaviors don't matter, nothing matters. Just as long as I go through the motions. I can't really let myself see them as humans or take anything seriously, or my anxiety starts to spike considerably.

I'm sure I accidentally let a "look" slip now and then, on accident, but it's the only way I've found to cope with that kind of anxiety throughout my life.

Like today a customer started to get very huffy and snotty with me, insisting that his coupon hadn't expired (when it clearly had, printed right on it expired Nov 4th and the register program wouldn't let me use it). My mind quickly devolved him into a babbling machine, just spewing random idiotic noises, while I just kept repeating myself, until he gave up and left.

[Nike007]

Originally Posted by CopperStar

I work in retail / customer service, and honestly the only way I can cope with angry / nasty customers is to take on a rather narcissistic mentality, it's the only way I've been able to cope over the years with things like that, and is probably largely responsible for a lot of my snark in general.

Like I just basically have to convince myself that they are all just pathetic stupid crybabies and that nothing they think, feel or say matters at all. I go through each shift creating this distance between myself and the customers, constantly reinforcing to myself (not outwardly of course, but inwardly) that they don't matter, their words and behaviors don't matter, nothing matters. Just as long as I go through the motions. I can't really let myself see them as humans or take anything seriously, or my anxiety starts to spike considerably.

I'm sure I accidentally let a "look" slip now and then, on accident, but it's the only way I've found to cope with that kind of anxiety throughout my life.

Like today a customer started to get very huffy and snotty with me, insisting that his coupon hadn't expired (when it clearly had, printed right on it expired Nov 4th and the register program wouldn't let me use it). My mind quickly devolved him into a babbling machine, just spewing random idiotic noises, while I just kept repeating myself, until he gave up and left.

I can't stand customer service. When I am able to get a job that doesn't involve customer service (which is when I get a degree from somewhere), I will be so thrilled. I really can't stand people. Sometimes because I am anxious, others because they make no sense to me and I can't read them. I get confused a lot.

I wish I had that type of thinking. That nothing matter about what other people say. I can't get rid of the thoughts that other people are always paying attention to me, and without everyone liking me means I am a failure in life. I hate my social anxiety.

I am sorry you had that incident at work. People hate being told they are wrong, though they are clearly wrong and there is evidence showing that. Anyways, thanks for the response .

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