[Melmo]

How do you even do this? I haven't really dated in years, and it's been so long now that I have become used to being alone and staying in my comfort zone that I don't even know if I can do it. I want to date, but the thought of actually meeting someone new and talking to them, them seeing who I really am, it's scary and I don't know if I can handle it.
It really doesn't help that I have extremely low self esteem, so when I meet someone I tend to think they are too good for me because they are better looking than me. I have actually dated a few (really good looking) guys that I look back on it and think, "how could they even be interested in me?"
I can't be the only one?

[barbella]

You're right, that sort of exposure is scary. For me anyway. I suspect you are not alone at all in this.

[ComfortablyNumb5]

I too suffer from very low self esteem (diagnosed with a few eating disorders too). I often wonder why my bf is even with me with all my MI's. Often I just apologize out of the blue for putting him through so much crap. He just looks at me like wtf? I always think he's just with me out of pitty and afraid that if he leaves, I'll do something stupid. Truth is, I probably would. I have in the past. I wish I had some type of cure or advise for you but all I can say is that I can relate. Maybe you can try talking to a therapist? Positive affirmation ect. Building up self esteem is quite a project that I never could complete though. When I was a raging alcoholic I would have to drink in the beginning of a relationship just to get comfortable with the guy if we were hanging around the house and especially if we went out in public. I'm sure you're a great person. We all are in some way or another. Don't question yourself so much. Know that you're worthy of these men and they are lucky to be with you! I just keep telling myself these things. I try.



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[Melmo]

Yea I have used alcohol in the past to be more comfortable around people. I find myself just avoiding meeting new people now. Seems like the safest option.