[autumn15]

Hi everyone,

I am feeling really annoyed at a situation I am in where a person I play mixed social soccer with has blatantly disregarded the needs of everyone else in the team.

This particular girl who previously hasn't made a lot of effort to show up to games (luckily we have enough players on the field without her), went overseas for a month and organised a replacement while she was gone. I thought at the time that this was really nice and forward thinking of her to do so. The girl she organised only showed up to half the games anyway but we were fine without her so all was well and good.

Then last week, the girl came back from holidays and played again BUT also brought the girl who had filled in for her, without consulting the team. So we had two female subs (there is only 2 girls on the field) and this meant we only got to play half the game each. It took the fun out of the game due to constant changing plus the original girl who had been on holidays kept refusing to sub on and off when it was time to, even after I kindly explained that otherwise we won't all get equal playing time. And then she was just being moody with me and barely made any effort in the game. the sub times were all out of whack, the swapping players so often meant that we couldn't get a roll on and it just made us not play as a team.

For someone who wasnt bothered even showing up usually, I dont understand why she all of a sudden thought we needed an extra player.

So I decided that maybe wires were crossed and that surely it wouldn't happen again after how the game had played out. But alas, tonight it happened again. Only this time I foresaw it and messaged the girl just to check that we weren't going to have too many players this time. I mentioned that we only need three girl players like the rest of the season so that we get enough playing time (coz we pay good money and drive over an hour to play). She cracked the shits and said that she had already organised for the other girl to come along so they would both be playing and that's that. The game went terribly again.

So now we are about to go into the finals with a ring in extra player that we don't need, a selfish girl who doesn't seem to like playing anyway and an overall bad vibe across our once awesome team.

I was pretty shocked at the attitude from this girl. A) this girl didn't organise the team to start with B) hardly rocked up to play before now C) always acts like she doesn't want to be at the game and never puts in any effort D) shows a total disregard for the fact that the rest of us have paid our fees all season and driven so far all season to put in the hard yards and get to the finals only for her to all of a sudden make her own rules and cause us to only get half a game in the finals for all our efforts.

I hate that I am so upset by something as small as this. I suppose I feel like she hasn't considered anyone else's feelings and doesn't care about our wants. I now don't want to be around her therefore this fun social sport which I look forward to all week has now become something I am stressed about. I am not good with confrontation or standing up for myself usually but this has really tested my limits. It's such a stupidly petty thing for me to lose sleep over!!! But I still can't shake my anger and anxious feelings about it. I am hoping we lose the quarter final next week and i can not have to see this girl again...

Just needed to vent majorly... Thanks guys



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[Skeezyks]

Hello autumn15: Thanks for sharing your frustration. Sometimes one just has to blow off steam! I'm sorry you're having to deal with this. Good luck working this all out...