At the risk of being recognized and identified I feel I must relate this problem..

Essentially, I am finding great difficulty with a woman at my group. Perhaps you have had similar apprehensions and anxieties come about at your own support groups. The problem here is that it is an on going and intolerable situation - I am so worked up and filled with apprehension that I am afraid each week to attend.

The problem is that this woman speaks of an inappropriate subject matter. Over the last year of weekly meeting she has yet to actually talk of her mental health. Instead she uses the group as a soapbox to every effing week to talk about her sexual antics. I no longer wish to hear about her sexting, posting naked pictures, and fooling around on her husband. I feel trapped as she graphically details all that she does.

I can see by the body language and faces on the other women that they for the most part feel the same. I can also see in the same fashion that she has each and every man in the group enraptured and drawn in.

Last night was far too much as she dropped innuendo after innuendo that her antics now include several of the men in the group. This has just gotten out of hand and I want it to stop.

I suppose talking to her is the best course of action but I'm not sure even where to start.

I guess I don't expect answers. Instead I just needed to rip into this and write a frustrated rant.

[Unrigged64072835]

Does this support group have a facilitator? They should be in control of the group. That person is who you, and the other women in the group, should go to. If there isn't a facilitator, then you can contact the woman directly. This behavior is harmful to the group.

Thank you. You are absolutely correct. No, there is no facilitator. There are a great many positives to being self-moderated but this definitely isn't one of them. I've considered this and yes, I've had to contact the group president and primary moderator. I doubt he even realized this was a problem. I tried to be as tactful as possible without appearing to wish any harm against the individual in question but also made it clear this just has to stop.

I know I will be made out to be the bad guy when this falls out. I was the only other woman in her group last night so it won't be hard for her to figure out I am the source. I will be disappointng some of the men folk too. Well, I am bracing myself for flack, but sometimes it's necessary to speak up. It may only be ten minutes a week but it is an excrutiating ten minutes at that.

[TishaBuv]

What a funny (unfunny) situation. Maybe she's a sex addict and instead of getting help, she's now screwing every guy in the group. I'm surprised all the women let it go on as long as it did. Keep us posted on what happens.

[handheart]

Well who force you to stay in thys circle with this woman ? In my case if i see something that i dont like and it dont serve me i leave

[Marrin]

I would also just report it to someone and see if it has any effect on the situation. If it doesn't change anything then you have to either live with the decision or leave the group and find a new one.