[worrist]

Every time I feel as if I've messed up at work, I fear that i will be fired from it. To give you some perspective, I get great reviews and always get complimented on my work. The rational side of me knows that I won't get fired. The worrying person in me goes nuts and assumes that at any point, i will get fired.

For those that suffer similar symptoms, how do you deal with it? Sometimes this consumes my thoughts for a good day.

[Skeezyks]

Hello worrist: My personal perspective is that the only way to deal with intrusive thoughts such as you describe is to accept them... with compassion. So, in an effort to allay my own intrusive thoughts, I employ a Buddhist practice called "compassionate abiding". This involves simply allowing the intrusive thought to come forward... breathing into it... perhaps even smiling to it. Sometimes I will even place my hand over my heart as a sign of lovingkindness & compassion for it. After a few breaths, I then drop the "story line" & simply continue to stay with the underlying emotion... be it fear, anxiety, grief or whatever.

Two things happen when we employ this practice. First, very gradually over time, the strength & frequency of intrusive thoughts wanes. But second, & perhaps more important, is that we learn we can stay with difficult thoughts & emotions without losing our balance... our equanimity. Here is a link to a mental-health-oriented description of the practice of compassionate abiding:

https://mindsetdoc.wordpress.com/201...e-abiding-101/

May it be of benefit.

[worrist]

Why do you continue to stay with the underlying emotion? Isn't that what I'm trying to get rid of?

Also... Thanks for the link.

[ThisIsTheEnd]

I feel the same about work. Great reviews, more responsibilities, even getting a team to manage with talks of a promotion next year. Still, I go home most days wondering how long that's going to last and if I should just quit.

Take a look at the imposter syndrome and see if any of that sounds similar.

[worrist]

I've read up on imposter syndrome in the last couple of months. It's spot on!

[MusicLover82]

I deal with this same problem. It sucks. I have not found a solution yet.

[sharonkelly]

Originally Posted by MusicLover82

I deal with this same problem. It sucks. I have not found a solution yet.

Hello, I have this fear all the time. A lingering feeling in the back of my mind that people will find out about my "issues", that I'm somehow incapable of handling a job. I've seriously considered going on disability because I find it so hard to go outside anymore - even the 5 mile drive to work.

I can't do that, though. The only thing keeping me going right now is my job.

...and I'm afraid I'm going to get fired.

Catch 22.

For me it's all a matter of self confidence. Something I struggle with & something I'm working on.

[handheart]

Well its just a negative part from you who want to be wory negative and scared ,dont let it to control you and stop thinking at this

[RamblinClementine]

I felt this for half of the day today at work for irrational reasons! And I still feel bad! I've worked at this place for 8 years. Aye ye ye