[BurmesePython]

Hi im 17 and terrified of moving out and living on my own. I feel like such a burden on my parents living here soaking up all the resources and space and food and money i want to move out and show i can support myself as soon as possible. The problem is i dont even have a license i cant hold down a job and have extreme anxiety surrounding being alone and dying alone etc. my biggest fear is dying suddenly and nobody is there to call an ambulance and my family finding me there. And if i move out there will be the added layer or nobody finding me for weeks
People who have similar fears or situations how did you get around it? How are you doing and what do you do if you start panicing or something?
Ps im sure theres a million typos sorry

[Skeezyks]

Hello BurmesePython: I'm sorry you are in this quandary. I don't know as I have any particularly useful suggestions for you here. But I noticed no one had replied to your post. So I thought I would.

Personally it seems to me that, at 17, there should not be any reason for you to feel compelled to move out on your own. Perhaps there are pressures you didn't mention in your post. I imagine that at least some of the apprehension you feel about being alone may have to do with your age. As you mature, you may find the idea of being on your own less intimidating.

If you do, in fact, need / want to move out on your own at present, perhaps the best thing to do would be to try to find someone you can share living expenses with as a roommate. However you mentioned you don't have a driver's license & can't hold down a job. So I wonder how you would manage to support yourself if you were on your own... roommate or no roommate. Either way you'd have to have some source of income to cover your living expenses.

I don't know as I have any real suggestions for what you would do if you started to panic or something. If panic attacks are something you struggle with, this may be an additional sign that moving out on your own isn't really the best idea at this early point in your life. But perhaps other members, here on PC, will have some suggestions as to how to handle situations like this. I wish you well...

[ken9018]

Do you have to move out at the moment? You say you feel like a burden, its that you or are the people you living with making you feel that way?

Also, I struggle with being alone also and that's usually when panic attacks come about. What my psychiatrist suggested was that for a few hours a day my parents leave and that will get me accustomed to staying home alone.

Good luck and take care!