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Anyone else get this anxiety over making phonecalls? I just can't bring myself to do it if it's something important. For example I've been trying to get in contact with a couple of people who might help me sell some of my work - one I know would definitely take it. I've tried emailing and contact on facebook but that didn't get through so I needed to ring.. but I can't bring myself to do it. This is from back in mid-November.
I think part of the reason is I don't have confidence in my ability to converse and I can't see how the other person is reacting; and also because I'm worried I'll just agree to things that actually wouldn't work for me. Oddly enough I'd rather meet face-to-face that talk on the phone given the option. Can anyone else identify? And how did you get over this kind of thing if you have? |
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I had to start ordering my meds. But not sure if Im over it.
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yes I do struggle with using the phone and avoid it when I can ,im sorry I cant offer any constructive advice ,just wanted you to know your not alone on this ,best wishes
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I understand. I am not a phone person; calling people and just talking on the phone in general causes my anxiety level to rise.
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In this manner you will be working on several things. The first is obviously de-catastrophizing the worry. Another is to address black and white thinking and fortunetelling. Finally - and my favourite - is that it forces you to acknowledge the positive(s). I did this several times a week for a month but now I can think and visualize the process without all the work involved. |
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I won't even call to order a pizza. I do it online! So, yeah, I can relate to you.
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I've had what I call "telephonophobia" my whole life. I'd rather text, or even talk to a person face-to-face. I've gotten a little better at it since my husband died because I've had to, but if I had my druthers I'd always use text or e-mail.
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How did we survive before the dys of Call Display?
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RE: Phones
When my cell phone goes off or I find I have a voice mail message, I fear that whoever is calling me is a bearer of bad news. I admit most phone calls are not bad news, but tell my panic button that. I just assume the worst when the phone rings or I have a message that someone on this planet wants to talk to me. I didn't have a phone of my own until I moved out of my parents' house and I only got one because they insisted. I didn't get a cell phone until I was stranded on the roadway and the experience was so dramatic that it gave me shingles. A phone call is an instant conversation. I have no time to prepare for the call unless I know it is coming. I have little time in the course of a conversation to process what I'm hearing and give my best answer. If I have to do the "social interact" thing, I prefer to at least do it with someone I can see. That way I stand a better chance of knowing when it is time to change the subject or say "Well, I better go...". Seconds of silence on the other end may mean my words are unsettling, confusing, or boring the life out of the receiver. The other day I received an e-mail that if I wasn't autistic, I would have been thrilled about. But it came with a catch of a phone interview with an absolute total stranger halfway across the country. I was telling a special education aide the story and she said, "It scared you to death, didn't it?" I was comforted that someone understood that it did throw me off balance and was almost to the point of making me physically ill. I wrote the stranger back and basically said, "I'm autistic. No phone interview. Just write me." I haven't heard back but it's okay. I'm at peace with it. I did respond to the e-mail instead of ignoring it. And I gave an honest answer. |
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I can totally identify with this. I have a phone but I will only take care of things that I can be done through text or email. I have avoided going to appointments if they couldn't be done online. Just like you I prefer face to face conversation which I find odd as well, since I'm not great at interacting with people. But I have drove around a traffic to go to places just to avoid making a phone call. I am also afraid to answer the phone or listen to a voicemail, somehow I assume it's bad news. I will make a phone call if I absolutely have to and don't have anyone do it for me but I have to prepare myself sometimes for days. I admire people who are able just to call a random number not knowing what to expect from other side.
I know it's an odd problem, I think even my husband thinks I'm crazy but in someway it's comforting to know that there are more people with phone phobia. I don't really have an advice, just know you're not alone. The upside for me is that my call in sick sheet at work is completely clean |
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Well I guess we all aren't alone in it It's been interesting to see what it is about phones that triggers anxiety in everyone. I'm in a way surprised with how communication technology has advanced that we can't get away with messaging and email nowadays completely instead of having to use the phone.
I will give that exercise a go and write it all down and work on it because I should be letting it interfere so much in my life. |
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