[dshantel]

Hi, this is my first time posing on this forum. I don't drive due to anxiety and it's ruining my life. I don't usual talk about it because just thinking about it makes me cry or want to cry. I'm almost 26 with 4 kids and not driving makes everything so hard. I don't leave my house unless I have appointments or we have to get food. My husband either drives me or I take Uber. Uber is not cheap at all and my husband doesn't like being my chauffeur on his his off. I'm currently seeing a therapist and I go to group cbt for anxiety and depression but Its so hard to open up in group. I would like to be able to do things in life and I have goals and dreams but driving us keeping me from reaching them and I just wish that I could do it but I can't. I'm crying right now writing this. I see my husband and what he has accomplished and what he's able to do and im just here not moving forward. I'm just so sick of dealing with anxiety and I hate that it's running my life for me. I don't know what to do and it won't go away.

[FallDuskTrain]

Originally Posted by dshantel

Hi, this is my first time posing on this forum. I don't drive due to anxiety and it's ruining my life. I don't usual talk about it because just thinking about it makes me cry or want to cry. I'm almost 26 with 4 kids and not driving makes everything so hard. I don't leave my house unless I have appointments or we have to get food. My husband either drives me or I take Uber. Uber is not cheap at all and my husband doesn't like being my chauffeur on his his off. I'm currently seeing a therapist and I go to group cbt for anxiety and depression but Its so hard to open up in group. I would like to be able to do things in life and I have goals and dreams but driving us keeping me from reaching them and I just wish that I could do it but I can't. I'm crying right now writing this. I see my husband and what he has accomplished and what he's able to do and im just here not moving forward. I'm just so sick of dealing with anxiety and I hate that it's running my life for me. I don't know what to do and it won't go away.

You have four kids and that is a huge accomplishment in it self.

Hi. I can understand how frustrating this must be . There are a lot of normal things that I don't do because of anxiety (in fact, I stopped driving between age 22 to 28 for that reason, too). You said you haven't opened up to group support, but have you talked about it with your therapist? Has s/he offered any long-term steps to take to eventually be able to drive?

I do know, to some degree, what you're dealing with.

[metalchick]

Many people don't drive for various reasons. There are ways around it like uber and public transportation. There is nothing wrong with that. If that is a goal you have, then keep working towards it. You are lucky to have a supportive husband who is willing to drive you guys where you need to go. Don't compare yourself to him either. Set your own goals and dreams.

[Sunflower123]

I'm sorry you're having a tough time. Kudos to you for getting to your CBT group and for wanting to aim higher. You have accomplished something huge. Your 4 children. I was thinking the same thing as a previous poster. You are not helping yourself heal by comparing your accomplishments with your husband's.

Are you seeing a therapist? Have you considered medication for your anxiety? I hope you feel better soon. Sending big hugs.

[dshantel]

Originally Posted by Bjørnen

Hi. I can understand how frustrating this must be . There are a lot of normal things that I don't do because of anxiety (in fact, I stopped driving between age 22 to 28 for that reason, too). You said you haven't opened up to group support, but have you talked about it with your therapist? Has s/he offered any long-term steps to take to eventually be able to drive?

I do know, to some degree, what you're dealing with.

I actually just started going to therapy. It had been awhile because I don't have insurance. I found this place that helps people with no insurance but it's group based. I only see my therapist alone like once a month. I have so much going on in my head that it's hard to get to everything in an hour.

[dshantel]

Originally Posted by Jennifer 1967

I'm sorry you're having a tough time. Kudos to you for getting to your CBT group and for wanting to aim higher. You have accomplished something huge. Your 4 children. I was thinking the same thing as a previous poster. You are not helping yourself heal by comparing your accomplishments with your husband's.

Are you seeing a therapist? Have you considered medication for your anxiety? I hope you feel better soon. Sending big hugs.

I just started the group thing and I only see the therapist alone once a month. It's hard not to compare when others are doing things I wish I could do.