[uapshu1]

I am 42 year old. Till now I am very afraid of people when they speak loudly to me or scold me. My mind goes blank with fear and just obeyed what others wants, irrespective whether his request/order/scolding is acceptable to me (or not). When someone loudly and aggressively talk to me, I goes into fear state and doesn't courage to neglect or deny him. This thing mostly happens when I interact with strangers/new people/ people in authority.
For example : I participated in a community service in my local area. One man certainly came and aggressively and loudly demanded to take photograph of me and my wife. I was frozen with fear what to do and he wanted to take photograph of himself with my wife and he did.
In another case, in barber shop, I went with my kid to cut his hair. I was saying to barber how his hair should be cut (in what shape & style), but barber interrupted me and said firmly ' go to there and sit there' and I become frozen with unknown fear and just followed his instruction. I just accepted the way he want to cut, not the way I want.

Till now I am living my life with with fear. I want any suggestion on cure.

thanks

[Cplus]

This sounds like a lack of confidence. I think the best cure is to hit the gym gain some muscle and you'll feel more confident that's what I did when I had this fear after a year I never had it again and people respected me a lot more I guess because I was a lot bigger. So that's what I think you should do.

[Sunflower123]

If you can build a tiny pause between what is said and your reaction of fear that gives you time to make another decision....to be more assertive. It will be difficult at first but you'll get more comfortable with it. Remember you don't have to react immediately to whatever is said. Try for a pause to collect your thoughts. Sending big hugs.

(((((hugs)))))