[sadandlonelyinspain]

I’ve become increasingly isolated over the years and I barely talk to people anymore. I live with my mother and my cousin but we don’t have a good relationship so I don’t talk to them much either. Yesterday an acquaintance that I hadn’t spoken with in a few months texted me so I started getting anxious and overthinking things to a ridiculous extreme, like I can’t think of a thing to say, I don’t have anything interesting to say, I don’t want to say something weird or dumb or annoying, she knows vaguely of some of my issues so she probably pities me, I doubt she’s texting me because she likes me as a person, I’m not likeable, I’m not even a very nice person, and then it always takes me way too long to respond a text. And this is just with texting or talking online, in person I can barely look at someone’s face.

I feel lonely most of the time and I wish I had someone to talk to but when the opportunity presents I just wanna go hide somewhere.

I’ve been meaning to go to a therapist, I’ve searched in my area and I’ve found one that I want to go see but I haven’t called yet (I don’t even know what to say tbh, like what is someone even supposed to say in this situation?). In the meantime if anyone has any advice on how to deal with this type of issue I’d appreciate it.

[Sunflower123]

Yes, call the therapist so you can start getting the help and support you need for your social anxiety. Also, don’t beat yourself up. You are being too harsh with yourself. Kindness will get you much further and you’ll feel better. I empathize. I have social anxiety and isolate as well. Good luck. Sending big hugs.

[CepheidVariable]

I'm sorry to hear that you're so isolated. I know very well the internal conflict between longing and wanting to hide.

Originally Posted by sadandlonelyinspain

I’ve been meaning to go to a therapist, I’ve searched in my area and I’ve found one that I want to go see but I haven’t called yet (I don’t even know what to say tbh, like what is someone even supposed to say in this situation?). In the meantime if anyone has any advice on how to deal with this type of issue I’d appreciate it.

Please don't worry about what to say. Sadly, social anxiety (even the severe kind) is a common enough affliction and consequently, therapists are well aware. Or should be, also don't be afraid to check out a few different therapists if you are able.

As for advice, start with something small and easier. I often find that just getting out and about improves my mood and likelihood of trying to do more. Just go for a walk, if nothing else. There have been a few discussions around this topic recently over in the depression forum recently, because loneliness does usually lead to depression when it lingers. There were some good suggestions and kind words over there.

[Kawaii Desu]

definitly see a therapist. some people might not get good ones but mine is really nice and sweet. most therapists are actually really good once u get 2 know them good