[BBB2]

Do you find that your responses to social interactions happens instinctively, or do you have to consciously go through your memory to retrieve information on how you're supposed to act/respond?

[sonjaward809]

I'm horrible at interacting with others in person, heck even on the phone I have trouble, unless I'm superrr comfortable with them. Most of the time I'm quiet because I don't know what to say or that I'm going to embarrass myself. I try to remember what to say but I go blank 90% of the time. I'm okay with my most immediate family members but new people usually think I'm rude because I won't speak. Little do they know I'm just terrified. Lol. Hopefully one day talking to others gets better.

I am pretty good. Not necessarily comfortable though. I figure I come from the idea that a good offense is the best defense. Inwardly it is painful but I put on a mask of gregarious confidence. I am fighting the urge to take flight but force myself to 'work the room'. It is exhausting always being at the ready.

[Unrigged64072835]

I feel like I'm either too sharp or too loud when I talk to people. I don't feel comfortable at all.

[Nike007]

I tend to use a script when talking to people, and if something is asked, and I don't know how to respond right away, I get really anxious. Strangers tend to make me really anxious. The former is just because I have autism, but the strangers part is more social anxiety.

[Unhinged88]

Originally Posted by Fharraige

I feel like I'm either too sharp or too loud when I talk to people. I don't feel comfortable at all.

Yes! That is me.

I am pretty good with strangers because I know I won't have to come up with more stuff to talk about because I'll only see them for a short time. When it comes to having to get to know someone, that's when I feel my most uncomfortable. I'm struggling with this right now, very very much.

[psychmajor1989]

I feel like I hate having to "dumb myself down" when talking to certain people that bring up conversations with me that are completely uninteresting and petty. I struggle with being nice to other girls in particular because I feel like I'm surrounded by simple minded people that do not have any interest at all in engaging themselves in current topics or their personal thoughts and beliefs on science, research, society, etc. My boyfriend probably hates bringing me around his friends wives...

[mote.of.soul]

I can respond and make conversations okay as long as my mood is stable but I do need to make sure my mind doesn't start racing, by keeping myself composed. But no, I've always found social interactions to be difficult. I have a lot of trust issues. Was okay for a while there but then it got worse. I think I'll be working on it for the rest of my life, to be honest.

[outkast3000]

I have social anxiety so no unfortunately

[BBB2]

Thanks, everyone.
I find it difficult when I feel "trapped" by a conversation. I don't know when the other person is going to stop talking or how I can get out of it without being rude or abrupt.

[CelestialFlame]

I don’t like first inpressions when one on one like interviews but besides that i don’t usually get nervous in social situations, if anything i get irritated by all the people.

[mote.of.soul]

Originally Posted by BBB2

Thanks, everyone.
I find it difficult when I feel "trapped" by a conversation. I don't know when the other person is going to stop talking or how I can get out of it without being rude or abrupt.

No problem. Yeah, totally hear you. These days if I'm in that situation, but my feelings are 'I want to stop talking and go now', then I'll say something like 'Well, nice chatting. Gotta fly". Or if I'm completely bummed out by the person then I'll just say "okay, take care" and walk off. Just depends on if I like what we're talking about or not. But for me, if I come off as rude, I don't care anymore because I probably didn't like that person anyway. But yes, it's a tricky one.

[made08]

I get uncomfortable talking to strangers or people I haven't seen in a while, specially on social gatherings.

[BBB2]

I crave social interactions, but I also find them draining.
To me conversations have patterns. It's like a dance or a tennis match. One wrong reply could mess up the rhythm or lose the game.

I get tired of being super nice, so not to cause offence. I get tired of my older colleagues who don't like to listen to me just because I'm younger.

I pretty much memorise the pattern of certain conversations.
Hi, how are you? I'm fine thanks, how are you?
Did you have a good weekend? It was ok, how was yours?

And, so on.

[ken9018]

I have to go through my memory before hand to plan out what I'm going to say. Even non face to face conversations i have to plan out before engaging in them.

if I'm dealing with one person, i'm not too bad. as long as the door is shut and we're alone, it's okay.

2 people I can cope with for a few minits, before I start to get really anxious and tend to choose to speak to who ever makes me feel safer of the 2

but 3 I simply can't do

2 is my maximum