[Zararose]

When In the past all they've done is lie, manipulate, take advantage of or disappeared from my life.

Call me broken but I'm going on what I've learnt. Why should I trust people? Why?

[mote.of.soul]

Yes, it's a tiring life. Well, if you choose to have people in your life, in terms of friends or relationships, then trust is necessary. But trust is something earned and not given freely, willy-nilly.

[winter4me]

Because you will miss a lot of good moments if you don't, if you make it one or the other. Most experiences are a mix over time.
Sometimes it helps to think of a time, perhaps, when someone, in retrospect, should not have "trusted" you but you never ever intended to hurt that person...yet it isn't something they would 'understand'...

[DP_2017]

I wonder this myself. It's why I prefer dogs, people exhaust me

I wonder this myself. Whenever I do reach out to be people because maybe I will miss out on good things they always F*** me over. ALWAYS. Do I just have to learn to accept this? Is there a sign on my head that tells people do do this to me? I don't know.

[possum220]

Originally Posted by Zararose

When In the past all they've done is lie, manipulate, take advantage of or disappeared from my life.

Call me broken but I'm going on what I've learnt. Why should I trust people? Why?

You don't have to trust any-one at all. It's your call. Animals are pretty safe most of the time. Those people who have used you in the past need to be treated with caution if at all.

Totally walling ourselves off in the long run leads to a very lonely life.

[marvin_pa]

As someone who has tended to find a lifestyle that leans toward the more hermit-like also tends to be a less stressful experience, I will say that the few individuals that I've come to regard as trustworthy, have at points, turned out to be very important to me - in that respect, the benefits from having let trust develop in those cases have outweighed the cost of experiencing the many that didn't make the cut.

I do agree with DP_2017's comment about dogs - you can't hide how you feel to a canine. They can often read us better than we can...

[PerryJeffJoeJimBob]

I have just learned to not trust anyone. Then I don't need to worry about getting hurt. But that tendency leads to isolating, which I know isn't healthy. And I know many people who want to be my friend, and I am sure they are trustworthy -- I just can't make that leap yet.

In opposition to other posters here, I am a cat person. I identify with their aloofness and independence. But they are great sounding boards (as long as they aren't kittens)

Originally Posted by PerryJeffJoeJimBob

In opposition to other posters here, I am a cat person. I identify with their aloofness and independence. But they are great sounding boards (as long as they aren't kittens)

I am a cat person too. But I have to admit... cats are unpredictable. As much as I try not to take offense even my cat has betrayed me sometimes. You put your head down to give them a rub and they purr, but then on exactly rub 5 they hiss. You know?

But even on his worse day my cat is much better than people.

Originally Posted by Zararose

When In the past all they've done is lie, manipulate, take advantage of or disappeared from my life.

Call me broken but I'm going on what I've learnt. Why should I trust people? Why?

though I can see what you mean, their are people out their not like that- ones that do want to help and do understand

plus: if you stop trusting people, no one can help you

their won't be anyone left