[nouseforaname]

So I had written a book about the new job just now and decided it was too much and deleted before posting. In essence it was about how I keep getting responsibilities added to my work load while others of the same or similar level do not. It was about how other people are given more support for the closing hours of the store while I have people taken away from mine and given trainees, while I'm still learning the ways of the company.

I am tired, frustrated and just sick to my stomach from all of it. Of course the manager of the store is not going to be around tomorrow so I can't talk to him. I have to wait until friday on my day off to talk to him. We are also getting visitors tomorrow which include a vp and the third highest person in the company. Might not need to talk friday, may get fired or just walk out tomorrow.

Today I snapped at the crew that was working and that included the assistant manager. When they stand around talking with a store full of customers and phones ringing and I am the only one trying to help people, it pisses me off. So some expletives and a very angry tone finally got them to break up and do their jobs.

I can only tolerate a couple of people or so that work there. I try to keep it civil with everyone but there are a few people that just ask for my anger, especially one obnoxious guy.

[Skeezyks]

I'm sorry to hear your work situation is so difficult. For me... one of the real blessings of being old is not to have to put up with all of the crap that trying to hold down a job brings. Here's hoping things can begin to improve for you soon... one way or another...

[TheSeaCat]

I remember that fondly, my previous job caused me to have so much stress, panic and anxiety, because like you there were several useless employees and I kept getting everything shoved my direction. It felt like everything was on my shoulders and my panic anxiety ended up with me getting fired. I wish you luck with the job and hope you feel better.

[Fuzzybear]

[WishfulThinker66]

I'm throwing up each morning before I go to my new job of one month. I feel for you.

To address the being thrown into 'training' new hires and additional duties, it seems to me this is being done because you have demonstrated the ability to do so. I think this is common amongst those with performance anxiety in the workplace. We work so bloody hard just to be good enough that we end up actually performing at a high level. Unfortunately this doesn't seem to be a world where leadership understands that it is important to show appreciation for or otherwise acknowledge such a high degree of successful performance. The old saying, "Good work gets rewarded with more of it" tends to apply. Your reward for doing such a good job is to be given more responsibility - whether you want them or not. In such away, you are being taken advantage of for your positive and good efforts.

Does this ring a bell or am I off base here?

Another possibility is that someone sees your work ethic and efforts as a threat.

The answer isn't, i think, to reduce your work ethic and output. the answer is to talk to someone and ask for a review of your performance and job responsibilities if this hasn't been done already. Indicate you are looking for feedback. It is at this point that a conversation should follow regarding what your current expectations ought to look like.

It is easy for me to say this in theory when I am fighting the intimidation I feel to do this myself. Perhaps thinking of your own case will give me the gumption to act.

[nouseforaname]

Originally Posted by WishfulThinker66

I'm throwing up each morning before I go to my new job of one month. I feel for you.

To address the being thrown into 'training' new hires and additional duties, it seems to me this is being done because you have demonstrated the ability to do so. I think this is common amongst those with performance anxiety in the workplace. We work so bloody hard just to be good enough that we end up actually performing at a high level. Unfortunately this doesn't seem to be a world where leadership understands that it is important to show appreciation for or otherwise acknowledge such a high degree of successful performance. The old saying, "Good work gets rewarded with more of it" tends to apply. Your reward for doing such a good job is to be given more responsibility - whether you want them or not. In such away, you are being taken advantage of for your positive and good efforts.

Does this ring a bell or am I off base here?

Another possibility is that someone sees your work ethic and efforts as a threat.

The answer isn't, i think, to reduce your work ethic and output. the answer is to talk to someone and ask for a review of your performance and job responsibilities if this hasn't been done already. Indicate you are looking for feedback. It is at this point that a conversation should follow regarding what your current expectations ought to look like.

It is easy for me to say this in theory when I am fighting the intimidation I feel to do this myself. Perhaps thinking of your own case will give me the gumption to act.

I'm not sure that I am getting more work cause I do good work. I think it's because I'm the only one that will do it, since I was told what my job duties are. The other people have been with the company awhile and I think they shirk their duties whenever possible and no one in charge does anything about it, especially now that I am there.

I have always been of the mind that if I have a good employee I give them some of the more important tasks but not more tasks. I leave all the so-called crappy duties and all for the lazy people and give them more duties. I believe in punishing those who won't work and rewarding those who do. So when I was running the commercial department for another company, I had a couple of really good drivers. They proved they can and will work hard and have enough of a brain to do the work right. The lazy drivers would ***** I gave them all the "hard work" and not the other two. The laziest of the bunch was the loudest.

He actually complained to the manager and district manager one time. So they came to me and gave me a talking to that I wasn't giving work to the other two, even telling me to give the guy a break. I took it all in and just said ok no problem. I let the other two do whatever deliveries needed to go, gave the other guy a few deliveries and let the day go on.

I get approached towards the end of my day and asked why there were certain tasks not done. I told them, well get started you may finish before the store closes. And explained to them with all the hour cuts there wasn't enough counter people to do the tasks and that the two drivers that were getting the easy tasks were doing those tasks. Then I told them, not to interfere with the way I do things and if people are not happy with the job they were hired for then they can leave, the door swings both ways.

All I got was but but but, who's going to do this? I told them again, it's their's to do now since it's what they wanted.

[WishfulThinker66]

Ah.... I am beginning to see this and understand a little more. Not all I will profess but more to a degree.

I am experiencing myself seeing my coworkers shirk responsibilities and 'scive' while I work excessively hard to bring up the slack and ensure what needs done gets done. My own irritability and testiness are growing.

Would you say yours is a case of 'ten percent of the people doing ninety percent of the work'?

What you are experiencing is a lack of leadership and supervision. Your superiors ought to be observing what is happening and taking the others in hand and holding them accountable. That is their responsibility, not yours (something I must constantly remind myself of). They should also show appreciation for the work you are fiercely doing the best to do.

I understand performance anxiety, I understand a lack of fair delegation of duties, I understand the need we feel to pull up the slack, I understand the irritability. I am unsure of what the answer is other than telling your superiors point blank what you perceive is happening. Another question related to this is does your company have an 'open door' policy? Or, do you feel some intimidation in approaching them about this.

One thing to keep in mind that any good complaint should come with a suggested solution.

Hope this helps. Rest assured, you are doing amazing at work and there must be at least someone taking notice.

I feel your pain... I take my job responsibilities very seriously and it sounds like you do too. Sometimes... it’s best to back off a bit and not be quite so energetic and efficient... sometimes you have to say no. People who know me in real life might be surprised and roll their eyes at me giving this advice because I do a terrible job of taking my own advice in this case... I really am trying though. I recently made quite a fuss at being left in charge of things like phones... I was not hired for covering other people’s jobs but if I keep doing it and if I don’t speak up... people will keep letting me. Team work is important and it’s great that you have a good attitude about jumping in and doing what needs to get done... but you’ll burn out and get tired and resentful if everybody else isn’t pitching in as well. I’ve been very burned out and tired and I can tell you it’s depressing... Best of luck to you... you have my sincere empathy on this. ❤️

[nouseforaname]

Originally Posted by WishfulThinker66

Ah.... I am beginning to see this and understand a little more. Not all I will profess but more to a degree.

I am experiencing myself seeing my coworkers shirk responsibilities and 'scive' while I work excessively hard to bring up the slack and ensure what needs done gets done. My own irritability and testiness are growing.

Would you say yours is a case of 'ten percent of the people doing ninety percent of the work'?

What you are experiencing is a lack of leadership and supervision. Your superiors ought to be observing what is happening and taking the others in hand and holding them accountable. That is their responsibility, not yours (something I must constantly remind myself of). They should also show appreciation for the work you are fiercely doing the best to do.

I understand performance anxiety, I understand a lack of fair delegation of duties, I understand the need we feel to pull up the slack, I understand the irritability. I am unsure of what the answer is other than telling your superiors point blank what you perceive is happening. Another question related to this is does your company have an 'open door' policy? Or, do you feel some intimidation in approaching them about this.

One thing to keep in mind that any good complaint should come with a suggested solution.

Hope this helps. Rest assured, you are doing amazing at work and there must be at least someone taking notice.

I think this has been the way at this store for sometime now. I kinda know the new manager and he's been with the company 6 months or so, I believe, it could be longer. How I understand it, since he started a lot has changed for the better in the store, it's just been a matter of getting the other people on board to the changes.

I don't believe in the open door policy, it's b.s. The last company I worked at had it. What it really means is the company now knows you are a complainer and they have to watch you and find ways to get you to quit. Like when the managers pushed me to another store and kept trying to get me to fill in at other stores that were further than their sop allowed for. They tried all kinds of things to get me to quit, I just did more things to piss them off, I really frustrated them, it was fun.

I'm just going do the job expected of me and not pick up the slack. I started doing that awhile back. I'm just tired of most of the tasks falling in my lap. I actually have to go to work in a little while to talk to the manager, we'll see what happens.

[nouseforaname]

Originally Posted by Sisabel

I feel your pain... I take my job responsibilities very seriously and it sounds like you do too. Sometimes... it’s best to back off a bit and not be quite so energetic and efficient... sometimes you have to say no. People who know me in real life might be surprised and roll their eyes at me giving this advice because I do a terrible job of taking my own advice in this case... I really am trying though. I recently made quite a fuss at being left in charge of things like phones... I was not hired for covering other people’s jobs but if I keep doing it and if I don’t speak up... people will keep letting me. Team work is important and it’s great that you have a good attitude about jumping in and doing what needs to get done... but you’ll burn out and get tired and resentful if everybody else isn’t pitching in as well. I’ve been very burned out and tired and I can tell you it’s depressing... Best of luck to you... you have my sincere empathy on this. ❤️

I have never been against working hard and doing what needs to be done but it has led to nothing for me. Even when proving my worth to a company I was denied raises and promotions. It's funny how when I stopped going above and beyond, everyone looked at me wondering why the extra work wasn't being done. I even had a district manager have a talk with me about it. I told him that I was doing the work when I had the time to help out the manager/store and besides if raises and promotions are not in the budget than my extra work isn't in the budget.

Originally Posted by nouseforaname

I have never been against working hard and doing what needs to be done but it has led to nothing for me. Even when proving my worth to a company I was denied raises and promotions. It's funny how when I stopped going above and beyond, everyone looked at me wondering why the extra work wasn't being done. I even had a district manager have a talk with me about it. I told him that I was doing the work when I had the time to help out the manager/store and besides if raises and promotions are not in the budget than my extra work isn't in the budget.

I totally get it.