[ALT2454]

How do you cope with relationship anxiety?

Example: He says he needs to step away bc of both work stress and emotional stress. Also, said I sent him over the edge bc he was bending over backwards for me and it was not good enough which in no way is the case. Haven't heard from him in 2-3ish weeks. His children are in town for 2 weeks and should be leaving in the next few days that he hasn't seen in many months due to a sacrifice he is making for his ex wife. He is waiting for her to move back here with the kids. I miss him and am having a lot of anxiety over not knowing if we are done or what.

BACKSTORY: long time undiagnosed ADHD, anxiety and depression.

Originally Posted by ALT2454

How do you cope with relationship anxiety?

Talk to friends, family, a therapist and/or on this forum. You may just feel bad for a while but time helps.

Originally Posted by ALT2454

Example: He says he needs to step away bc of both work stress and emotional stress. Also, said I sent him over the edge bc he was bending over backwards for me and it was not good enough which in no way is the case. Haven't heard from him in 2-3ish weeks. His children are in town for 2 weeks and should be leaving in the next few days that he hasn't seen in many months due to a sacrifice he is making for his ex wife. He is waiting for her to move back here with the kids. I miss him and am having a lot of anxiety over not knowing if we are done or what.

BACKSTORY: long time undiagnosed ADHD, anxiety and depression.

Has he taken you to meet the children? (Just introduced you to them as a friend?) If he has not--this might be a sign that he is not as serious about your relationship as you are. Has he asked you to see him exclusively? If not, I would try to date other people. Being able to move on (even if you have to fake it)--is more attactive than being clingy. Though I understand how much it hurts.

[MickeyCheeky]

I'm so sorry, ALT2454. I think the best solution is to just be clear with him. Ask him if he wants to continue this relationship or not and see how it goes from there. If he says now, you may have to start looking for a new relationship. I know it hurts, but it's best to move on, although it isn't easy and it takes time. Take your time to heal. Sending many hugs to you