[Breaking Dawn]

Hi, Posters! This thread is for us who worry about things, about ourselves & others. And we want to feel less afraid of social situations. Ok? So anything goes here for finding better answers. I'll start with my own post.

I realize I'm too afraid of most people. It hurts me to not feel trust, & end up feeling bad about myself, resulting in low self esteem. CBT (cognitive behavioral therapy) helped me but I seem to need more than that. Do any of you relate to this & want to share? Or just say whatever you want to say.

having extreme agoraphobia, it's really hard for me to get to most places.

at my age, saying that I've never been to a seaside, I've never been to a carnival, I've never been to a show on broadway, it's a ****ing joke.

people half my age have probably done everything I just listede plus more- and it makes me sad that when I come to the end of my life, what do I have to show for it?

I don't even have friends to take me to these places, because firstly my extreme intriversion, secondly all my issues. I carry a lot of baggage and no one really wants that in a friendship

plus I don't have family support, so can't turn to them either

[Breaking Dawn]

Thank you, raging vortex! I understand. One thing I love about these forums is that we don't have to leave home or wherever to be here. And I'm grateful for tv travelogues that take me places I would otherwise never see.

[Fuzzybear]

I don't like engaging with ''humans'' since they give me bad looks when they see all my fur

[Breaking Dawn]

I saw a bear reading a magazine when I was about four years old. It was in the hallway of the building we lived in. It had brown fur like yours, Fuzzybear.

[Pinny]

Thanks for making this thread @Breaking Dawn

Ive been avoiding a lot lately, I cancelled playing for my sports team last night because I was too tired and anxious I havent socialised for weeks.
But Im feeling a little better this morning and I have finally replied to some messages (I avoid people when Im low). Some friends want to meet up but Ive been putting it off and putting it off because socialising feels so overwhelming just now.

I think Im going to wait until Im feeling a bit better generally.

I hope everyone has had or is having a good sleep!

[Fuzzybear]

Originally Posted by Breaking Dawn

Hi, Posters! This thread is for us who worry about things, about ourselves & others. And we want to feel less afraid of social situations. Ok? So anything goes here for finding better answers. I'll start with my own post.

I realize I'm too afraid of most people. It hurts me to not feel trust, & end up feeling bad about myself, resulting in low self esteem. CBT (cognitive behavioral therapy) helped me but I seem to need more than that. Do any of you relate to this & want to share? Or just say whatever you want to say.

I get hurt nearly every time I trust someone.

UGH IT SUCKS

[Fuzzybear]

Originally Posted by Pinny

Thanks for making this thread @Breaking Dawn

Ive been avoiding a lot lately, I cancelled playing for my sports team last night because I was too tired and anxious I havent socialised for weeks.
But Im feeling a little better this morning and I have finally replied to some messages (I avoid people when Im low). Some friends want to meet up but Ive been putting it off and putting it off because socialising feels so overwhelming just now.

I think Im going to wait until Im feeling a bit better generally.

I hope everyone has had or is having a good sleep!

Hi Pinny, Breaking Dawn and all

I haven't socialised for weeks either. It does feel overwhelming sometimes, I completely get that.

I had about two hours of sleep last night so not great.

I usually avoid people when I'm low. Occasionally, maybe once every 10 years, I ''allow'' my cub to write to someone. It is nearly always a mistake.

I'm sorry about the grrr message. It's not about anyone here

[Fuzzybear]

Originally Posted by Breaking Dawn

I saw a bear reading a magazine when I was about four years old. It was in the hallway of the building we lived in. It had brown fur like yours, Fuzzybear.

[Breaking Dawn]

I was sure the bear was friendly, but I was sneaking outside our door & stayed quiet & went back inside. But I remembered that bear with deep affection all my life.

[Fuzzybear]

Originally Posted by Breaking Dawn

I was sure the bear was friendly, but I was sneaking outside our door & stayed quiet & went back inside. But I remembered that bear with deep affection all my life.

Thanks for sharing this, very sweet

[RoxanneToto]

I’m angry about the effects my adoption had on me - in itself it was already traumatic, to leave my birth mother and family, but to then be adopted into a similar situation to the one I left behind (i.e. addict father, bipolar mother - not saying I’m judging bipolar people in general, and certainly not my bio mother for being so sick. I know it’s not anyone’s choice. If I had the power, I’d go back in time and make her better to prevent her suffering unnecessarily, even if I still ended up having to leave her again) just… it was meant to make my life better. It didn’t, not really.
I love my T, but find it ludicrous that I’m getting some of the things I needed from her, almost without asking specifically, and not from my mum.

[zapatoes]

Anxiety creeps in so badly in some situations and then in situations I perceive as really chilled and only deal with a person a few minutes it’s not as bad. Still even when I pay at the cash register sometimes feel uncomfortable and think why can’t I think of interesting things to discuss with the cashier.

[Breaking Dawn]

Lots of times I have trouble at the check out counter, too. When I feel stressed or apprehensive, I mentally practice how to behave ahead of time, pretend I'm comfortable, & I'm so glad when I'm out of the store. It feels like such a relief to be out of there & done with the whole shopping experience.

[Buffy01]

I noticed before the pandemic started I had unintentionally made people nervous to be around me. When the pandemic started I noticed people seem to be rude to me making me want to avoid everyone.

[sarahsweets]

Agoraphobia is awful and misunderstood. I was agoraphobic for a year after a traumatic incident with police. In fact unless my husband had to drive me somewhere I never left the house. Only under my canopy in the backyard.
My T at the time and psyche used exposure therapy and after 9 months I was 95% better.

Originally Posted by raging vortex

having extreme agoraphobia, it's really hard for me to get to most places.

at my age, saying that I've never been to a seaside, I've never been to a carnival, I've never been to a show on broadway, it's a ****ing joke.

people half my age have probably done everything I just listede plus more- and it makes me sad that when I come to the end of my life, what do I have to show for it?

I don't even have friends to take me to these places, because firstly my extreme intriversion, secondly all my issues. I carry a lot of baggage and no one really wants that in a friendship

plus I don't have family support, so can't turn to them either