[black-roses]

I can't help but be anxious and upset thinking about how alone I'll be once mum leaves that I won't be able to have enough money for a house and I can't work due to mental health issues. When she dies homeless is definitely a possibility and one I hope I never have to go through I know I have my sister but she has her own family. I don't expect her to tolerate me. It just sucks so bad that I'm too anxious to study and I don't know how my future would be if unable to work I will have no job security or income to have my own house. It is a terrible thought and makes me think what's the point if I can't do anything it just hurts so much.

[Blah nlah]

Bro same…
Very very similar issue…
My dad is 60, I’m 19, and have dropped out. Living with my mom is too much, due to trauma. My sister is a carbon copy of my mom and won’t appreciate being my provider if something happens. I wanna become independent and self sufficient but studying is so hard. Especially when I don’t even know WHAT to study, how to study, or if I’ll even be able to stick it out. Work environment scares me, I hate the idea of overtime, and everything is very slow, recovery from depression and anxiety is slow, can’t stand for too long, feel lazy to cook, blah blah
I hope we can support each other
I suggest you to post this in Coping with emotions forum, since this is the general forum, that way, you’ll get more tailored responses from people.

[black-roses]

I haven't logged in for months so I only just saw this. Fastward to now and I still have insecurity and fear over all my job security. My mother and sister think I should apply for DSP they discourage me from working. I just wonder am I that hopeless. Man you and me have the same issues. I hope we can find peace someday.

[Blah nlah]

Me too bro I hope we find peace

[Rose76]

That's a crushing anxiety to have - the worry about winding up homeless. I had that worry in the past, and it's absolutely the pits. Like you, I didn't want to lean on siblings. Fortunately, I'm fairly secure now, in terms of income and a place to live.

Is it the thought of not having a house of your own that is your biggest fear? I live in an apartment, which I'm very happy with. I like that the landlord has to worry about anything needing fixing. Do you think you could adjust to living in an apartment, or "flat?" I can understand that you might feel very attached to your mum's home and not want to lose it.

[Blah nlah]

For me it’s about not getting a job

[jesyka]

Originally Posted by black-roses

I can't help but be anxious and upset thinking about how alone I'll be once mum leaves that I won't be able to have enough money for a house and I can't work due to mental health issues. When she dies homeless is definitely a possibility and one I hope I never have to go through I know I have my sister but she has her own family. I don't expect her to tolerate me. It just sucks so bad that I'm too anxious to study and I don't know how my future would be if unable to work I will have no job security or income to have my own house. It is a terrible thought and makes me think what's the point if I can't do anything it just hurts so much.

Sorry to hear that. Won’t you end up inheriting her house & her assets like her savings when she dies?

Have her hire a lawyer & write a will asap. Tell your mom about ending up becoming homeless.

How do you pay your bills now? Can you get on any disability?

Your sister probably won’t let you sleep on the streets. Get life insurance for your mom now. I am going to do that soon. I’ll be screwed too if my husband dies before me.

I couldn’t even afford rent with a roommate making what I do now which is $800 a month. My psycho sister lives with my parents & she banned me from their house. I doubt that friends willlet me stay anywhere for long.

Can you work at all? Most retail places will hire almost anyone with open availability.

Please have your mom hire a lawyer & write that will asap!

Then sell the house & move to a cheaper area. One person I know moved to Vegas. A 2 bedroom apartment there costs $1800.

Once the house is yours, maybe you can rent a room for income if you are oK with sharing your home with someone.

Try to get some of job training if possible. Just google free job training in your area.

If you can lift heavy items & do physical work, then stock work is an option. Grocery & retailers are always hiring. Especially around the holidays.

Can you drive? Maybe work as a Lyft or Uber driver if you’re not to mentally disabled.

[black-roses]

I can't drive my attention is so bad but that advice is worth looking into. I just tried to get referred to this service but they didn't want to take me on so I don't know how I'll get NDIS or disability. So I just feel pretty scared and then the stuff related to my weight and not being able to lose it is just mentally defeating.

[Samicat]

Originally Posted by black-roses

I can't drive my attention is so bad but that advice is worth looking into. I just tried to get referred to this service but they didn't want to take me on so I don't know how I'll get NDIS or disability. So I just feel pretty scared and then the stuff related to my weight and not being able to lose it is just mentally defeating.

I recommend applying for government disability asap since many people don't get approved right away. In my country (Canada) people sometimes have to appeal a few times but usually get it in the end. You should be able to get it even if you live with a parent. Also get on wait list for a subsidized apartment. Wait lists can take years so you may as well get on the lists now. Yes, it's stressful but will save you stress in the future. Good luck to you.