Androphobia

LadyMe · Mar 27, 2024 at 02:33 PM

I am terrified of men. I avoid eye contact with them when I'm talking to them. I forget what I'm going to say sometimes. I stutter sometimes when I talk to them. I know men are a lot stronger and faster than me. When they are angry, I feel distressed and shake. I know they can be aggressive, and I want no part of that. Even the sweetest gentleman gets angry and expresses his anger. I can't disagree with or be assertive with a man because I'm afraid he'll get angry and beat me up. One time some big guy bumped into me from behind at the store so hard and I fell into the shelf, and I was the one who apologized. Even men smaller than me kicked my butt before. I really don't want to make a man angry. I'm always super nice and respectful to men in public to avoid getting on their bad sides. I love men so much, so this fear is hard to deal with. I hope I can overcome this fear of men someday.

CANDC · Mar 27, 2024 at 07:24 PM

@LadyMe welcome to MSF. I am sorry you have had some traumatic encounters with men. I find online interactions with people to be less stressful and gender does not play as much of a role for me online.

However I do avoid angry people. They are difficult to deal with.

CANDC

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LadyMe · Mar 27, 2024 at 11:24 PM

@CANDC Thank you for your support. This is a difficult fear to deal with. I can't hide from men all the time.

CANDC · Mar 28, 2024 at 12:40 PM

@LadyMe one thing you might want to do is make a list of the qualities, traits, behaviors that you do not like or are anxious about and not describe them as men but as qualities you fear. You can deal with qualities. You cannot eliminate men. Many women have qualities like anger that men have also or trying to dominate others.

I think if we know what it is that we fear we can detect it in people and animals and take steps to avoid them if possible. This can get one past black and white thinking that labels men as a threat. The real threat is the behaviors that cause me anxiety and fear.

CANDC

LadyMe · Mar 31, 2024 at 03:58 AM

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Originally Posted by CANDC

@LadyMe one thing you might want to do is make a list of the qualities, traits, behaviors that you do not like or are anxious about and not describe them as men but as qualities you fear. You can deal with qualities. You cannot eliminate men. Many women have qualities like anger that men have also or trying to dominate others.

I think if we know what it is that we fear we can detect it in people and animals and take steps to avoid them if possible. This can get one past black and white thinking that labels men as a threat. The real threat is the behaviors that cause me anxiety and fear.

CANDC

Thanks for the advice. I'm not afraid of women. The men I lost to beat me harder than the little women I've lost too. I won most of my fights against women who attacked me. But never beat a man who attacked me. The men beat me with ease. Brutally too. That's what makes men so scary. I know women can be somewhat threatening in their own way if they're like Gabi Garcia or something. But your average man is always more threatening.

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LadyMe Member Member Since Mar 2024 Location: Earth Posts: 54 9 hugs given	Mar 27, 2024 at 11:24 PM #3 @CANDC Thank you for your support. This is a difficult fear to deal with. I can't hide from men all the time.
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