My dear friend lost her precious cat today... big trigger for her OCD

My friend lost her cat today. I was at her house when the vet called to let her know the surgery wasn't successful.

The really horrible thing about it all is, that my friend was the one accidently running over her own cat driving out from the driveway by their house.

He had a dislocated hip and they fixed that... a wound on one of the corneas... then sent him home since they couldn't see any internal damage on the scan.

Early this morning Rocky got sooo sick and they took him back to the vets. They then discovered that the urine bladder was injured and urine had gone out into the blood. They tried to perform a surgery on him as I was visiting my friend... but nothing could be done.

My friend has OCD just like I do. Her worst obsession has been about accidently running over one of her cats, another animal or a human being. She has had to drive back and look to see that didn't happen... when she's been at her worst. She went through CBT this fall and has gotten much better about many of her obsessions and compulsions. Now I'm so worried she might regress because of this very triggering event; running over her own precious darling cat and him dying.

Any suggestions as to how to help her deal with this?

I begged her to call her psychologist... who she's not seeing anymore... to help her work with this trauma.

I also told her to call me when ever she feels the need to talk or even just cry on the phone.

Please send your good thoughts and vibes to my friend.

I give her my condolances. I have had cats all my life, and it was very hard when they passed away, Ive delt with it 3 times. I have never been so close to any of them like I am with my calico, and i really dont want to think of the day she will pass because I will be torn into pieces.

She really should talk to someone. It crosses my mind once and awhile that when i take my cat outside for 10 mins at a time that one day she might run into the road and get squished. It sort of goes with me always thinking of the worst case scenario. I can only imagine the guilt trip that she is experiencing from running over her cat. I would be in absolute shambles.

I feel terrible for your friend I know that it must be awful for her to deal with as I have 3 cats myself and would be devastated if I had done that to one of them........I have nothing to offer other than the simple fact that it was an accident....she meant no harm when she left her house......it just happened.....I think the idea of therapy is a good one because of the guilt that she probably feels.... I hope it all works out for the both you.

Thanks both of you for your replies and pieces of advice.

My friend is slowly feeling better. She saw her psychologist yesterday and that helped her a lot.

(((((((((((((((((((((Nina)))))))))))))))))

((((((((((((((((((Eva))))))))))))))))))))))))

((((((((((((((((((((Rocky)))))))))))))))

I'm so sorry i only just saw this post. I met Eva and Rocky and I am so sad for Eva. Please give her a big cuddle from me and tell her i will write soon .... poor baby, rocky was so beautiful.

(((((((((((((Nina))))))))))))))))so sorry, love always, Kerry xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxo

I hope she is doing at least a little better. This is a pretty strong devistation.