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Jan 06, 2009, 07:15 PM
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Hello Everyone
 I had a very difficult time at college today. For one of my classes we were separated into different groups. I got the choice of 2 different groups of ladies. When I choose one group over the other I over heard one of the ladies say something to the effect of "I am glad she decided not to come back here".   This course requires alot of group work and class discussions. I don't know what I am going to do. I feel like everyone doesn't like me for some reason. Like I've been singled out as the one not to like or to have as a group member. 14 classes with these ladies!! How do I make it through without overdosing on my medications or doing something stupid (starts with the letter S). I really really need your help and advice on how to handle this situation. Zen888 
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Jan 06, 2009, 07:41 PM
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Zen888 - some people are just unpleasant because that's the way that THEY are.
But, it sure would feel uncomfortable for some one to say such a thing to you or about you. There have been some times recently when I have felt that way in a group - there is something about groups of people (and there's nothing wrong with me - it might be an age thing). If possible, just try to ignore those who speak in such a way, and focus on the work that you know you must do, if possible. Remember, that you can come here to the forum where people are friendly and helpful. |
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Jan 06, 2009, 09:53 PM
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Zen, I'm sorry, keep holding your head high! Being different from others is okay. I am frequently different from others. You have to believe in yourself no matter what!
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Don't let your problems or the world make you feel small. Stretch your arms out over your head. Take a deep breathe. Tell yourself that you are big. You are big, not small. You always have space, you are not trapped........ I'm an ISFJ |
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Jan 06, 2009, 11:15 PM
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(Zen888))
Some women never get over that petty drama stage that they go through in high school. If they can't accept you, that is their loss.
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-Helen Keller "Risk! Risk anything! Care no more for the opinions of others, for those voices. Do the hardest thing on earth for you. Act for yourself. Face the truth." -Katherine Mansfield |
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Jan 06, 2009, 11:59 PM
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Thank-you so much for your responses!
 Does anyone have any good coping mechanisms for mean/catty women?
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Jan 07, 2009, 12:19 AM
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Look at the women who are treating you this way. Then replace the image with something funny-like bratty little girls in pigtails, throwing temper tantrums. Stomping up and down with their arms crossed because mommy told them no candy. lol. It'll help with the tension these women make you feel. Whenever you see or hear them being rude towards you, grin or laugh quietly like you're amused by how childish they are. Keep replaying the funny image in your head. Sometimes that makes petty people like that so mad that they just stop being childish. That's just my experience though. Hope it works for you.
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-Helen Keller "Risk! Risk anything! Care no more for the opinions of others, for those voices. Do the hardest thing on earth for you. Act for yourself. Face the truth." -Katherine Mansfield |
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Jan 07, 2009, 07:50 AM
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Don't let your problems or the world make you feel small. Stretch your arms out over your head. Take a deep breathe. Tell yourself that you are big. You are big, not small. You always have space, you are not trapped........ I'm an ISFJ |
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Jan 07, 2009, 05:04 PM
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so you just be you and you'll be fine. put on a happy face and then they'll wonder why they don't feel so happy...
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Do not let your fire go out, spark by irreplaceable spark, in the hopeless swamps of the approximate, the not-quite, the not-yet, the not-at-all. Do not let the hero in your soul perish, in lonely frustration for the life you deserved, but have never been able to reach. Check your road and the nature of your battle. The world you desired can be won. It exists, it is real, it is possible, it is yours..~Ayn Rand |
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Jan 08, 2009, 07:48 PM
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Zen,
Can you rearrange your schedule so that you are in another section of the course? Also, does your college have resources for student counseling? |
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Jan 08, 2009, 08:33 PM
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Hi EnglishMajor
I have choosen to withdraw from this particular course due to the numerous assignments and consequently the catty "ladies" that interferior with my learning and well being. Do you have any tips on how best to deal with catty, mean, immature "ladies"? At times that can be down right mean and outspoken about their distain for certain people in the program. Zen888 
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#11
Jan 09, 2009, 12:51 PM
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Zen, it helps if you don't value their opinions. When you are hurt by what they do this gives them power over you. This also gives them more reasons to target you because you are giving them this reward - they feel powerful...............
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Don't let your problems or the world make you feel small. Stretch your arms out over your head. Take a deep breathe. Tell yourself that you are big. You are big, not small. You always have space, you are not trapped........ I'm an ISFJ |
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