[DSweet1978]

I have been with my fiance' for 10 years and we have 3 children together. I have diagnosed with ADHD, Depression and Anxiety but am currently off all my medication due to the side effects. Here is my problem once in a while I obsess over his past relationships. I ask him detailed questions about every single girl he had a relationship with. I ask him detailed questions regarding sexual experiences down to did they have a washer and dryer, who cooked and cleaned and who drove. Everytime we try something new either sexually or just doing something with the kids I always ask, "did you do this with anyone esle". It is driving me crazy because I cant make it stop if I try I get real hot, dizzy, irritible and start crying. Then when he does answer me I accuse him of lying to me and I demand the truth and get real angry. I dont want to obsess about this anymore. I have been with for 10 years why should his past bother me like this when I had relationships before him? I love him dearly but I feel like pulling my hair out. It seems I want him to tell me all his past relationships were horrible. Then when he answers me I feel sick to my stomache, I just want this to go away. Please help me.

[Sannah]

Do you want assurance from him for his love and dedication to you? Do you feel basically insecure and this drives your anxiety which then drives this obsession?

[gimmeice]

Hello Dsweet, welcome to psychcentral. I think that you need to find out what is causing this anxiety, I recommend therapy because it has really helped me with my anxiety. You can learn some coping skills to lessen your anxiety and therefore stopping your obsession.
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