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Feb 01, 2009, 10:37 AM
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so I told T i would try and do something once or twice per weekend just to get out the house. So I am going to my cousin's baby shower today and NERVOUS and I dont want to go. I am going for two reasons. 1) I dont want to let my T down---tho id be letting myself down more and 2) T wants me to make a note of the emotions and thoughts going thru my mind when I put myself in to social situations. What;s funny is that I can hang out in a huge crowd at the grocery store and mall and interact with the tellers in these places, but social settings like parties and meetings get me wound up....okay I'm heading out....
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Feb 01, 2009, 01:43 PM
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good luck today
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Feb 02, 2009, 10:17 AM
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Hi Life, how did it go? Large crowds are not intimate. You can be anonymous and hide. Small gatherings allow people to "see" you. I had the same stuff. I went to a large anonymous university and was very comfortable then I started a Master's program. It was small and intimate. My anxiety went through the roof! This also forced me to deal with my anxiety, though. Your T has good ideas!
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Feb 02, 2009, 11:27 AM
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thanks Liberada.
Sannah--- thanks! it went...it wasn't as bad as I thought and I had a decent time. I still felt like people were staring at me. Wondering if I looked funny or ugly afraid i'd say something stupid...I still had trouble speaking and engaging, which is probably cuz I was on such high alert...paying attention to everyone else to see if they were paying attention to me. Part of me feels very socially inept I guess. i dont know. I feel like a dunce when it comes to these things. My parents didnt really emphasize "socializing" when my sis and I were growing up. I dont know if I will ever be good at this socializing thing.... ...but I had a decent time. I was definitely drained after that, but glad I went |
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Feb 02, 2009, 02:36 PM
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Good news Life! It will get better if you keep trying and working on things that don't go well. I went from being totally socially inept to being able to handle any social situation. These things can be learned!
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Don't let your problems or the world make you feel small. Stretch your arms out over your head. Take a deep breathe. Tell yourself that you are big. You are big, not small. You always have space, you are not trapped........ I'm an ISFJ |
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Feb 02, 2009, 06:04 PM
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Thanks Sannah--my thing is I know these things will take time...but Im the type of person who wants it NOW...Im just so frustrated with myself. I am still in my twenties(26 to be exact) and I am scared I am going to be imprisoned by this for several more years.... I have yet to live the life of a 20 something year old...
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Feb 03, 2009, 12:38 PM
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Quote:
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Don't let your problems or the world make you feel small. Stretch your arms out over your head. Take a deep breathe. Tell yourself that you are big. You are big, not small. You always have space, you are not trapped........ I'm an ISFJ |
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