[savingjanedoh]

I've had a wall built in my life. A wall built on humans and their stupid decisions. Straight up, human stupidity. I got so used to people burning me and burning me that I built a wall to provide protection from that. I never had to let anyone see the "real" me. No full-monty here, more like 10 metal jackets you can't see through with x-ray vision. But then I realized how unhappy that made me. I've never been satisfied with having my life undone. I am a passionate, adventurous, expressive, loving, out-going, wonderful person and I refuse to live my life with an imaginary wall against the human race. I'm the type of person who can/will talk to anyone regardless of where they are in life. And I can't live my life waiting for the bumps in the road because at that point I've already missed all of the scenery. Then what would life feel like but the bumps. I don't know about you, but it's not the bumps that I'm trying to remember so why waste my life living in expectation of it.

Ya know obviously don't be naive, but don't live in anxiety and hurt. You have to forgive people and move on. Move the hell on. People don't define you. What they've done to you doesn't define you. Who you are is who you are and if you are someone of character, that's not going to change because of someone ELSES mistakes. I am not the result of another's mistake. I take responsibility for my own ****in life. And I forgive the transgressors of my past.

[ihateit]

Very well put! I love the rock group "Live", and actually listened to the words for "The Dolphin's Cry"...one part that got me ( a lot did but this fits here I think) is;

life is like a shooting star
it don't matter who you are
if you only run for cover, it's just a waste of time

It's really good to see that you are feeling this way, and was refreshing to see and read, I get my moments, and uplifting posts are awesome to see! Thanks!

[madisgram]

great post, sjd!!!!. you have a great pholosophy to live by and it will open so many wonderful doors. i too feel as you do...life it too short to be tangled up with things that have already occurred. i did use a therapist to help me tho cause i was so tangled up at first i didn't know which end was up!
so glad you posted such an uplifting message of hope and a positive perspective of life.

[Sannah]

I had a wall once to protect myself. What helped me bring it down was learning the skills to protect myself without a wall that blocks even the good out. We should have learned these skills as children and we shouldn't have been hurt in the first place to even learn these things, but, these skills can be learned at any age...................