Here is my full confession, but it is long.

I have been taking medication and going to therapy, but I am concerned that it has been of little help. I need help.

Okay, I have had these thoughts for over eight months now. I have avoided the issue of infidelity because it is of no use to my life. Sadly I expect men to be the main cheaters, which is the case. But women are soon catching up. Until these last few months, cheating has never been any issue, but I am fascinated by it. Now I don't want to be. I'm not saying that I have become addicted to it, just that I wish I had that sense of right and wrong like in the past. I think it is wrong for both men and women who cheat. What is it about women who cheat? It seemed rare to me, if not crazy, especially if the man is a good one. I don't think less of them, but I think that they are idiots. On a sidenote, I think most men who cheat are dogs and simply no good. I'm sorry about what has happened to you.

It wasn't until the last few months that I think less of a woman who cheats. it is so crazy because I have become a changed person, good and bad. I have become judgemental. That is why I wonder how many partners she had, why she cheated, etc. Those things I could just let go of because that is not me, but the double standard is obviously there. In fact, I hate having these thoughts. They just won't go away. They simply won't pass. I tend to look for the most extreme thoughts, when in fact they are actually few and far between. Most men and women are even faithful, or have no more than 1-4 partners. They cheat for a number of reasons, and I suspect that they love their partners, but cheating is wrong, regardless of the reason. But I have noticed people do look down on women who are rather promiscuous. I even wonder why some people are promiscuous. There are even a number of reasons. Some people just love sex, others love the single life, some have sex addictions, some like the adventure, some are not ready for a relationship, some like the money, and there are some who are evil. They love hurting men or women. They are purely selfish. They are narcissitic and abusive. Most promiscuoys are either excited by sex, or just troubled. Some have no respect for themselves. I hope that hleps answers your questions.

sorry, what was the question???

How should I deal with the anxiety that come with the thoughts about infidelity that I have? It stems from thoughts that have nothing to do with my life. They could stem from comic books, movies, novela, tv shows, etc. My mind is not very strong. It is as if I can be triggered by anything. What is most frustrating is that they all seem real.

Have you brought this up in therapy? It sounds like your anxiety is really feeding this and making it feel real, maybe trying to tell yourself over and over again that just because you worry about something doesn't make it true will help. Also when you start to notice the thought process starting maybe you could disrupt it by using a distraction or some relaxation techniques.

gimmeice!!! hope this helps lik3.

I agree with bringing this up in therapy.
You can also write down your thoughts and then read them.
When I have obsessive or anxious thoughts it helps me to write them down or save my posts if i have posted them.
another thing i am learning to do is meditate. this seems to help also. jsut breathing. letting the thoughts just float overhead like clouds or like leaves in a stream.....just letting them go and not get focused on them. it takes practice to do that. but it does work.
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