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Old 11-13-2020, 10:43 PM   #1
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Default Does it ever really go away?!?!

Hate it, being in the throws of emotional attachment, cries of attachment.
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Old 11-14-2020, 04:04 AM   #2
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I don't think so. How can being unloved and unwanted by everyone ever go away?
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Old 11-14-2020, 06:47 AM   #3
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Hate it, being in the throws of emotional attachment, cries of attachment.
There are many types of emotional attachment issues (to family, friends, ex-bf/gf, etc.). Not sure what kind of issue you are dealing with but sometimes we can learn more about ourselves when we have attachment issues. I have dealt with my own attachment issues. One was that I was too emotionally enmeshed with a couple of people in my family. I feel like I am no longer too emotionally enmeshed with them anymore so I was able to overcome that issue. So there is hope. If you love someone more than they love you, IMO there is a grieving process. It sucks but time will make it better. The hardest situation is when someone leaves you dangling and is not up front with you because it takes time to figure out and you end up feeling used/like a fool. Anyways, wanted to put a positive spin on this. Hope you can figure out how to feel better.
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If you love someone more than they love you,

^I agree it is simply this. If you find other people who feel the same as you and know how to show it, you will feel it, and the longing feeling can go away. Keep an open heart. I have found there are people who are simply loving and genuine and I feel no relationship anxiety with, and then there are others who put out the triggering behavior. Sadly, its a viscous cycle as people with attachment issues gravitate to the same kind of people who will feel familiar to what they know, poor attachment.
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finding now DETACHMENT is where i am at
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for me it has depended on the person, the reason for, the backstory leading to it ..
i have a mixed lot if grief for people who have died and can barely recall ever knowing some of the other who have died. i grieve for people i have no clue why im still hearing their voice talk to me every day and i barely have a vauge memory of what other people even looked like.
im still hung up on a flame from over 1/2 century ago that came to a very destructive ending that I myself was the one made the choice to end it.
my ex i have no emotional feeling towards at all
ive fallen out from friendships i miss to this day.. ive fallen out of friendships and dont remember who that person is or having been friends with the person at all to begin with..
ive got enemys i cant think what the heck happended that made us become enemys and ive got enemys i tell you play by play every detail that went down.
i have no answer or advice to offer you but i hope it might be somewhat a comfort to you to know you arent the only one who deals with having some type of issues involved with detatchment
i make myself stop myself from delving too deep into any of it because in the past when i did delve in deeper.. i know for a fact i did NOT enjoy that horrific experience AT all and hope like all get out i never end up putting myself going back there ever again.
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i am So Sorry for whoever is struggling with this. Please never give up as you're all strong warriors. Remember that this is a safe space and that we are here to provide Support. Sending many safe, warm hugs to ALL of you, @just2b and @Que Sera Sera, your Families, your Friends and ALL of your Loved Ones! Keep fighting and keep rocking NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS, OK?!
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