My boyfriend has ADHD and ADD and i odn't really understand what it means

hi,
im 18 and my boyfriend is 17 and he has ADHD and ADD, but i don't really understand about it especially when he tlaks about ''cold turkey'' and i was jsut wondering if anyone could help me understand it better as i lvoe him alot and jsut want to be able to understand it so that i can be there for him.

Also i think i mgiht have borderline personality disoder and was jsut wodnering if you think that is a good combination or not? As i'm never been with any with ADHD before but like i said above i love him so much and jsut want to be able to understand it.

Thankyou olivia

Honey, I'd like to understand it too - and I have it!

My husband doesn't understand it either - but he's been my best friend for nearly 12 years and most of the time he's just "there" for me and it makes all the difference in the world. I've only gotten diagnosed a few months ago.

What I'm saying is, a full understanding of what ADD/ADHD is not necessary to be successful in a relationship with a loved one who has it. If your boyfriend has stated that he wants you to understand the disorder better, that's one thing, but if not - it's okay. Go ahead and learn all you can for your sake, because it sounds like you're truly interested in the knowledge - but don't ever feel that just because you can't stand up and give an impressive lecture on what ADD is, what causes it, and how it works, that you can't be a good companion to someone who has it.

All my husband knows is that I bring more energy into his life than he could ever muster on his own, I have unexpected outbursts, I re-teach him how to appreciate simple things in life with the wide-eyed wonder of a child, and I'm quite the mess; but I'm his mess, and he loves me.
He knew I was "weird" before The Diagnosis. Now that there's a name for my "weirdness," still the only name he knows for it is (my name).

That's my little cent and a half, for what it's worth.

Kiwi ~ go to Conditions and Disorders on the very top bar of this page and read about your disorders. You can also go to the library and ask to look at the psychiatric Diagnostic and Statistical Manual. As for "cold turkey", I alway thought that meant going off medications, alcohol or drugs all at once, rather than tapering off. Maybe your bf means something different by it.

Honey, I have had ADHD for over half my life, 24 of my 34 years not realizing I DID have it! D (My husband) is reading "Is it you, me or adult ADD" right now. It is frustrating him like crazy. Here the author is showing why I have behaved for the 12 years we have been together, but he is still upset, but he feels bad that he is upset over something I may or may not have been able to control! What a catch 22!

I caution ANYONE about self diagnosis. Make sure you see a professional about what your issues may or may not be.

Hang in there! There is new information coming out all the time!

I think cold turkey means going off medications for add/adhd. You should accept him for who he is. Add/adhd is part of who he is but not his personality. If you want to learn more about look it up but you do not have to understand everything about it. Your boyfriend should tell you about his symptoms and why he does what he does.